My ex and I have been growing a lot closer of late. There's been a definite softening in her toward many of the hurts from the past. I never stopped loving her nor her me but we made a lot of stupid mistakes and didn't deal with them correctly. Ultimately, it led to a divorce.

A divorce I didn't want. Regardless of the divorce and hurt feelings I continued to offer my friendship and she accepted it and over the years since we've spent a lot of time together, going on many dates, talking regularly,and just slowly healing and reconnecting.

She's been much more loving recently and called me earlier to suggest we go away for a weekend sometime soon. We hashed out a plan and we'll be taking a weekend trip together in the next three weeks or so.

Why am I sharing this?

Because it's a nice little example of perseverance and letting go of the past and how doing so can renew old feelings that seemed to have died. I could've reacted with anger and thought "Fuck that bitch!" years ago but chose instead to remember why we connected to begin with and why we loved each other enough to get married in the first place.

How will it play out? I have no idea but I do know it was the right choice to learn from past mistakes while letting the past go rather than letting it fester as a bad memory and make me hate someone I actually love.

Kylo Ren said it best in The Last Jedi; "Let the past die. Kill it if you have to." It was a great line from a movie that otherwise sucked balls.