I’m a feminist and I have a pretty “traditional” marriage. I’m a housewife and primary caregiver to our 3 boys. My husband is very involved with them when he’s around (3 months a year) though. I do all cooking and cleaning although when he’s home he will help out, I’m the quintessential “queen of her castle”. My husband is a humanist but not a feminist. He thinks gender roles are a good thing.

My husband does the dishes, that's an opposite gender role but we don't think it strange because I do the cooking. It's a division of labor that works for us. We are both feminists and we both think it's fine.

All relationships are different, whatever works for each individual couple is right. Nothing is wrong unless one half of the partnership is unhappy with it.

When you say 'traditional,' what do you mean? When most people think of traditional, they only go as far back as the 1950s, where women at least had some autonomy. But in the 1800s, women didn't even have the right to vote. For most of our history, women have been property, and marriage was about ownership.

I don't think most people who use the term "traditional gender roles" even know what that means.

Traditional gender roles are just that - traditional. Right for some, wrong for some.

Why single out how a feminist would view it?

Roles agreed to when mutually chosen can work just fine. It's having roles imposed that is cause for concer, IMO.