If you know what's ruining your dating chances, then you're way ahead of the rest of us.

Honestly.. I don’t know that you should trust any advice from around here on dating… We appear to be an aging mishmash of misfits

Seems like you have more thinking to do!

I overthink to extremes. It has helped me a lot and I can actually see why I do many things because of this. It is also not good for dating and relationships. I'm not sure how to stop it. Recently I have seen how what would appear to be totally unconnected events are really connected after all. When I put this together I see that we have no "free will." Everything is repetition of one kind or another of some past learned thing and this is what we are all about.

There are plenty of assholes out there, who don't give a crap about anyone, getting lots of dates!

Their success is based on the fact that they are unapologetically themselves, as they inflict their unpleasantness on others.

You needn't change your "over-thinking." It's not a negative trait and some women will find your attention to things, sexy.

Own it.

Overthinking ruins a lot. I do it too. Not sure how to stop it.

Dear , you don't need our thoughts. You need to develop the other side of your personality: feel, emote enjoy. Those are the vibes that make for a successful date!

Your sideways picture makes you look like a careless doofus, not an over-thinker.

Overthinking may mean that dating isn’t a priority. Or you lack confidence. I’m a sexuality counselor and may be able to help. Feel free to PM me. Or, if you have general anxiety, therapy might help (I’m not a therapist).

Rowing around the lake with one oar on the port side of the boat. It is hard to find other smart people to mind meld with IRL.

Maybe it is the facial hair? Lol