Tolerance helps to make developing relationships easier.
Every so often I have a reminiscent desire to put up with about anything.. Perhaps having gotten good at it in childhood, a long term marriage ..and it’s equivalent with a crazy follow up r/s.
I’ve often assumed, with a lifetime of experience, ‘she & I’ would have developed too many ingrained differences to be compatible. But, with our presumed maturity, should be far better at letting go…
Notice a lot of couples in my little tourist town.. and find myself feeling sorry for most. So the fact I’m not tethered to a r/s becomes the antithesis to the occasional longing described above. Still lost
We all need to find the meaning in our lives, and live and act and say and do to move our lives toward the fulfillment of that meaning. When we find someone to be part of our lives, we know it will be a good match when the presence of that person makes moving along our path a much more enjoyable task or experience. And it is only fair that the other person, being working to move along his or her own path, finds the task more enjoyable because of our presence. So, each person works toward his or her own purpose. I do not recommend that one works for the other or viceversa.