I'm sorry.

Quite right. Why wouldn’t he be there.

More to a being than flesh and bone or we wouldn’t be having this conversation!

So very very sorry.

When people assure you he is in heaven, maybe you can translate that in your mind to mean that heaven is the warm place you've created for him in your heart, soul and mind, where you keep his memory alive. Even though you can no longer physically touch him, converse with him, etc., keeping thoughts of him close inside your body, he lives on with you, and you can honor him by doing things he liked to do, as you take him along in your continued journey through life.

It's hard, but you are embracing him within your heart every day. (By your heart, I mean your mind, but we tend to feel things in the area of our heart, maybe because we are told by poets that's where love lives inside us.)

In a way, he came from you and returns to you. He didn't exist before you, but he became part of your life and continues on in your heart. You have memories of him to keep you company.

We all have ways of turning platitudes into something meaningful, with enough imagination. Platitudes are just ways of thinking about things that we hope can help through challenging times. Everyone is different, and beliefs are so personal and change over time. All you can do is go with what you believe at this time.

Sending mental rainbows of healing and peace to you.

Your feelings are understandable. So sorry for your loss.

It is your will and thoughts and those of his sibs that create his presence and keep him with you. There is no objective reality... only individual subjective ones each conscious being creates. I thought of my dead father at least 3 or 4 times a day for 35 years... Not so often now but still quite often... Savor your memories!

Do you mean religious platitudes, or all forms of "sorry for your loss"? People mean well; I just can't stand the religious bullshit.

Death sucks, my father died when I was 8 years old. I became an athiest. However, something happened to me in 1994, it changed my life. I read a great book. BEYOND THE LIGHT, but PMH Atwater. The book saved my life.....so did Reverand Burkholder who has sinced passed away. PMH Atwater died 3 times, like Dannion Brinkley.....Brinkley wrote SAVED BY THE LIGHT. Dannion was on the Phil Donahue Show 3 times, They made a movie on him. If you go to IANDS meetings (which i went to for 10 years) you will meet plenty of people who have died and came back. Another great book is LIFE AFTER LIFE. by Dr Raymond Moody. I have met all of these people in person and had dinner with them. You have to remember there is a reason why you are NOT clairvoyant. And by what I saw, if you become clairvoyant......YOU WON'T STAY HERE!! Once you've met your Guardian Angel, there is no reason to stay on the planet, you just want to go with them. You will see your son again, and all your other loved ones too.....don;t worry about that. This dump is pretty short so keep a sense of humor. Buy the books. Pray to your son to reveal himself "in a way that you will understand"....and he will. He loves you just as you love him. He is still there. This will all pass......and sooner or later life will become fun again. It takes time.

I have nothing to give.

For me, those I've lost live on in my memories. I try to focus on the good times and the moments that define how I perceived them throughout their life and how it affected my own.

I can totally identify with you about the platitudes and religion folk like priests and elders telling me a little story about "what happens" and where my father was going on his new journey. They never knew my father and the fairy tails they give only served to piss me off.

What was more impactful for me was the people who told me how my pops had helped them or had a story about how he affected their lives.

Anything else is beyond our control.. and sadly (at least for me) the pain never truly goes away.. In a melancholy way the pain just reminds me that they mattered.

So very sorry

My deepest sympathies... I hope you find all the answers you are looking for!

I'm so sorry

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Great plan and good luck sir.

Damn. Really sorry about that, man.

Sorry for your loss. In your situation I would probably be handling it the very same way.

Well that sucks. Sorry for your loss.