In absolute agreement. There needs to be an enforceable rule.

I've have some members who were removed come back up to five or six times "reincarnated" - many scammers do this as well. (They use the same bio or the same photos again and again).
(It does make the hunt for them interesting though).

Correct but you don't use another Person as your ID and pretend for a year that it's you either do you? No you don't.

That would be disingenuous.

@RavenCT No, it would never occur to me to do something like that.

@Lilac-Jade I really like that about you?

I have no objections to people using whatever they want as a picture - except when they steal photos of other humans beings that might be mistaken as being their own face. Which was the case here.

The photo had 60-soemthing likes the last time I saw it - before I blocked her. Members believed it was her.

Using something other than your face is not a deceptive practice but may simply be discretion. Cats are a lovely choice.

@RavenCT Thanks.....I was headed for something of a guilt trip there.

@RavenCT I thought it was a picture of her. Had no idea it was a porn star. I simply asked her why she decided to use a porn star's pic and she said it was an image of someone that looked closest to her. It was a matter of privacy not showing her real face but a likeness of it, if you will. I see no issue with what she did tbh because I don't like using my real pic on social media either because it gets me treated differently, either harassed more or sexually harassed by men in groups. I prefer being treated like a human being first rather than a potential fleshlight and hiding my real pics has achieved that for me.

@demifeministgal Yes, its not a case of being deceptive, its keeping ourselves as safe as we can online.

@demifeministgal There are many options that don't include assuming anothers identity.

I had to explain to a member today that that photo is NOT her: He was convinced it was.
I felt like I was pulling the wings off a butterfly.

This is sketchy behavior and precisely what scammers and catfishers do all the time.

It disappoints me that so many members can't comprehend the nuances. It's stealing glamour from another. You can just as easily use a photo of a rock to preserve your identity.

If you're going to use a real person it needs to be a person so readily recognizable that no one will mistake it for you.

People were not liking her photo because they didn't think it was her. It was not approval for CJ Miles porn star - it was approval for the member wearing her face.

And how does someone with a newborn spend oh so many hours online? I absolutely don't believe that. (But you are all free to). Anyone is free to tell a story online and have it believed I suppose.

Remember too the photo was subtly altered as to not be readily searchable.
Who does that? People with bad motives.

I'm unsure what this person is getting from this site. And what people are getting from her.
Apparently they find it very valuable.

Because very few are asking the right questions and almost none will ask them publicly.

I've had multiple high level account holders say "Thanks - I knew that account was sketchy!" - but they just don't want to say anything in public.

The retribution on this end is pretty nasty. Trust me we don't take this on for fun.
It's done because of concern that something is being done here - and we can't see it from this end.

@RavenCT I asked her publically in the general and hellos post and was told she did not want to make her pic public and found a pic of someone's face online that closely resembled her own... so it was a way to show herself without actually having to show herself. Personally, I would not go to all that trouble and would prefer not to give people even a whiff of what I look like, but to each their own.

As for the newborn thing, I have known people in my life who have newborns and are online alot because their business is mainly done online... it is not uncommon for millenials to be online even when we are busy multi-tasking... I do not doubt that my generation of moms can do that just as women from older generations could be on the phone or watch tv with a newborn.

@RavenCT I don't really get anything from her but I have been accused and harassed of being a fake account or spam account online by people for not having my real pic up, be it on here or on other social media... so when others make posts like yours against us non-real pic users I get defensive cuz I know how that feels like... it doesn't feel good at all... women should be able to use social media without being harassed... and if the ONLY way to do so is without including our real pics, so be it.... I never see people throwing fits or demanding men post their real pics... why the double standard? probably because women are judged on our looks first and everything else as secondary cuz society is that fckd up.... but that's not your fault, it is a failure of society...

@demifeministgal i have zero issue with people using avatars - it is when the avatar is another human that people believe is you? That is wrong.
She could have used a meme generator to label the photo or noted it in her profile.

Porn actress as avatar equals ill intent feel free to browse all the scam hits in "Watchers" many labeled 'another porn actress'.

She got caught and she doesn't like it. The lashing out from members at this end is just terrific too.

I will never not report a false photo because of someone's level.

@RavenCT I did not mean for my comment to come across a lashing out... I know it may feel that way cuz of all the piling on you are getting atm... I genuinely was trying to understand your reasoning and convey the reasoning of people on this side of the aisle. Yes you are free to report or bring attn to the senate and admins as you see fit. Was not trying to stop you from doing so.... I suppose others have here idk.

@demifeministgal I actually don't have access to the Senate?

I'm not angry with you - I'm simply explaining the points as I see them. No worrys.

I'm perplexed that I'm hearing only from people in private - except that a lynch mob formed.
People don't want a social media lynch mob in their lives.

I'm getting used to the feeling of pitchforks and torches.

@RavenCT Isn't that the group we get access to once we reach level 7? Perhaps it has another name

@demifeministgal Yes I was removed from Senate. (It was supposedly temporary but it's been many months now).

I'd asked for personal blocks to be reinstated there and tried to get people to work that issue.
It didn't go well. (I'd noticed most of the members with depression and anxiety were no longer participating there).

I would explain what went on there by saying it was pretty much the same lynch mob that formed. (Though they've added a few new faces this time). I used the chat room to hold a meeting and it turned out they'd formed a group to pre-plan their group response. (Flame the War Room).

They got as ugly as they are now - perhaps worse actually? I can't judge I didn't see much of what happened this time due to blocks.
So I'm just hearing snippets reported to me from my roommate.

I still don't have any of those flags on my profile so? (Shrugs).

It descended into much the same posse you're seeing this time around of people name calling from group to group.

This time I'm not asking for reason. I know better.

It's actually just as easy to suggest things through other groups or via PM without the input of members who simply want to be detractors.

What is really ironic is I didn't create this post. Kafirah did. It was just presumed it was me.
She's the Mod. in "Watchers" and felt strongly that members needed to know about the misrepresentation.
I had to agree - a member's level shouldn't be the deciding factor.

But pretty much everyone thinks it was me who did the write up? (I usually do). But I stepped back on this one. She was willing to step up.

I'm exhausted by this member. And the angry responses. And I now have two dear friends planning to flee the site. We'll see if any of that can be fixed.

I've no idea what goes on with the two accounts. The warning was issued to members - they can choose what they do. They're adults.

My Senate Posts are available on my Profile for any who are interested.

@RavenCT ahh okay then makes sense... I tried to find that flame war room when you mentioned it but could not find it in a search... perhaps it was shut down? idk