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I must get something off my chest: when I post and express a closely held opinion here on Agnostic.com, I try to do so in a way that's not confrontational or outrightly offensive. Unfortunately, I keep getting a few replies to my posts that "sound" confrontational, patronizing and sometimes even a tad offensive. I suppose some people just can't play nicely. The wounded child in me is tempted, at times, to pick up my toys and go home, but I've had too much therapy to let my admittedly thin skin slow me down very much. Guess I'll make liberal use of the blocking function and soldier on.

Rob48 7 Sep 21
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I think the sentiment is shared by a lot of us especially when a topic has been polarized or is divisive. Communication is not an exact science and not everyone gets what one means. For me, I will admit when something is not worded in a manner I had wanted but I will avoid finger pointing and/or name calling. When people are quick to get their back up but slow to question there is often a preconceived notion. I ignore comments that constantly criticize and refuse to agree to disagree. It's a waste of time arguing with some people.

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How does one block? I had an anti-choice chick just blow up my feed not long ago.
BTW, I've been pretty impressed with your posts.

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I’m learning a lot about atheists & agnostics here, not all good.. There are some angry people; they appear to lash out at, not only authority figures, but anyone appearing to have it better than them. They seem to be in pain, and in need of company..

I’ve maintained the feeling, if you can’t say it around here, hopefully among friends, then where? And if you notice ...they’re quite often a minority of one. So keep it coming 🙂

Varn Level 8 Sep 21, 2019
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I feel it's one thing to disagree -- even passionately -- but it's another thing entirely to be downright mean. Some people seem to not know the difference. Even though I feel more comfortable sharing here than on Facebook, I've still had to develop something of a thick skin here and practice some discretion and decorum.

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That's the bad part of being online. People will say things they would never say to your face. They feel anonymous enough to be insulting.

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Most people don't want to hear your opinion, they want to hear thier opinion in your voice.

Public places aren't the best place to express closely held opinions/beliefs if you don't have a thick skin. Give the wounded child in you a lollipop and some legos, and continue on while he's distracted.

1of5 Level 8 Sep 21, 2019
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this is based on hypothesis only, I havent looked at your profile, or remmebering any of your posts. Im basing this on any reasonably intelligent member of good standing.

Im guessing your posts sound just as confrontational, patronizing, or a tad offensive too, to other people. Its hard to read things that other people think are news, or opions that seem "wrong", and not respond with frustration, if its an issue that you don't think is news. I can see the option of "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything", but at the same time, this is a community with equal voices, and if one member is saying things that arent helpful, the other member certainly has a right to say so. Perhaps its a variant of "we know you can do better". If people thought you were a total idiot theyd completely ignore you.

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Yesterday I blocked a woman who repeatedly criticized me. She is a conservative Republican.

She said we were "brainwashing kids with liberal bullshit" by including them in the global Climate Strike march yesterday. The Climate Strike was organized and led by youth on six continents.

So far, I have blocked about 50 Republican men who called me nasty names for being a Democrat. Personal attacks are against community guidelines.

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Look, just see offensive evil creeps like me as a challenge, turn it round on them lead them by the nose to the flaws in their logic. And if they block you for being really nice, count it as scoring a point. But unless they are threatening never block them, don't give the the satisfaction, but even better treat them as a chance to learn about human nature in all its forms, then you will be ready even if you meet one of us jerks out in the big world.

@Winkiedink54 Will try harder.

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I agree with the others stick around use the block function if necessary. 😉

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I did not think your posts were confrontational. Continue speaking your mind.

However in politics when people run out of arguments they get personal. Progressives will call you a Trump troll, conservatives will call you a liberal troll or a libtard.

What matters to me if that I spoke my mind properly and sleep well at night.

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I don't been trolled a few times myself

bobwjr Level 10 Sep 21, 2019
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I have replied to a couple of your posts...I trust I was not impolite, or worse sounded patronising. I apologise if I came over as such.

@Winkiedink54 Ah...yes! The penny has just dropped, it was Rob48! I thought I recognised your photo....welcome back.

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Get used to it. It's common practice here. you'll also be called a troll if you say something that someone doesn't agree with. The block feature is useful

lerlo Level 8 Sep 21, 2019
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