A woman who buys baby clothes " just in case" is Not right in the head!
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Baby clothes just in case??

WTF does that mean? You don't start buying dog food just in case you decide to get a dog someday. That was a BIG red flag.

She's ain't right in the head! Baby clothes "just in case." I would have started running then.

I wouldn't rule out ever dating a theist again. This girl was crazy for other reasons.

In many states a single mother, not independently wealthy, will have to use Gov services for aid to said child, medical and so on.
They will do a DNA test in order to bill you.
IF you want the truth, go to human services and insist they do a test because you do not want to be a deadbeat Dad and don't know if it is yours.

If not you will need to force the test through courts.

If you didn’t want more children, why didn’t you use your own protection or have a vasectomy? You ignored her obvious references because why? Yes, unprotected sex feels great but is also the #1 cause of pregnancy.
Yes, you’re a nice guy, so you’ll try to do the right thing. Be prepared, it’s going to get worse.

Three words: A preemptive vasectomy.

Firstly, I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time. Divorce is hard enough as it is.
Especially when kids are involved.

Just from what you posted, I'd definitely be demanding an independent DNA test.
Just because you haven't been asked for child support, doesn't mean it won't happen.

It's possible that you were used as a sperm donor, or as cover for a pregnancy fathered by someone else.
In any case, please make sure you are protected. If the child is yours, and if you want participation in the child's life, you need to be prepared to fight for it. Sounds like she and her family would attempt to use your atheism against you.

Sorry you're hurting. Perhaps some professional mental health assistance would be something you could avail yourself of.

Good luck going forward.

I'm very sorry you're going through this. I'd say there's a lot more going on here than her theism. While I could never date a theist, her behaviour goes well beyond being a person of faith.

If you can, remain distant and free yourself from these crazy people. If it IS yours, your atheism will have freed you from any responsibility, as they won't want a "devil worshipper" anywhere near this child.

If you decided you do want contact, you'll be able to get it.

Right now, take care of yourself and thank your lucky stars she's gone.

Genetic testing first if no match run fast

You should get a paternity test by court order. This way, you know the facts and can plan from there. Talk to a lawyer, emotions get in the way, let them handle the messy stuff. Don't answer the phone if it is her or her family, just tell them politely to call your lawyer.

Get a paternity test, set up shared custody and then you can have a chance to influence your child's life. If the child is yours.

Get a lawyer. If it's determined that the child is yours pursue your parental rights. Whether you wanted kids or not the well being of the child outweighs anything else.

This is more than her being religious. This is also about her being immature enough to allow her parents to have control over her. As others have mentioned, I would find out if the child is yours -- you have that right, and if so, you also have a right to have a relationship with that child. Other than that, although I know it hurts, you are better off not being in a relationship with her.

This is not your child .
Congrats . U avoided a good deal of bleeding .
This one will return if the current idiot who she plays house with , smells the rat that she is . Then u will be bothered again . That will be the time to have a paternity test done and shut her mouth for ever .
Your atheism was never the issue . The next / more convinient / $$ penis was the issue . She found it / secured / u had to go .
I am so happy for u . Congrats !!!

Tinder and ex boyfriends? just be happy she is gone.

Hey there @Charles9488, are you going to even consider acknowledging any of these really wonderful responses here?

People have taken the time to support you. I know you have a lot on your mind, but it would show some appreciation if you would hit the "like" button at some point.

And I don't mean me. I already have my agnostic.com pen and T-shirt...

Just saying.

I would need a sense of closure if I were a man in your situation... I would not leave her be until I knew if the kid was mine. If it were, I would then have to decide do I want to be in its life or do I just sign away my parental rights. If she is unreasonable and would not allow me to see my child, I would have to involve lawyers and the courts. Good luck to you in this situation it is a messy and tricky one for sure.

You didn't say how long you were with her, but is there a possibility that she was pregnant by someone else and looking to you as a prospective surrogate daddy to support he child? Then when the parents found out you were a heathen they put the brakes on that idea.?

My brothers ex did the same thing. Suddenly started buying baby clothes "just in case". My brother thought it strange since he had been sleeping on the couch for months. Nut case.

Ya got played! Ditch the bitch!

1. Have you heard of condoms with spermicide ? 2. Demand a paternity test. Go to Social Services and see if she is collecting welfare perhaps telling lies to them about you or any potential sire. 3. If you want visitation with your proven child get a lawyer and protect your parental rights. 4. Do the world a favor and expose conniving xians who brainwash children from birth and sexually mutilate baby boys.....you have every right to protect a son from them and follow the proven education of a daughter as your other girls

If she demands child support, demand a paternity test. Also, if it's your (and if you want it) have visitation in writing.

Get legal advice specific to the state you live in. Just because you have not been asked for anything now, doesn't mean you won't be later. And it might not be done nicely. Better to be ahead of it.

She sounds too controlled by her parents for her age ( I’m guessing she is around 30 like you). Hopefully, the baby is not yours and you can sever all ties to this unfortunate phase in your life. If the baby is yours, fight for a relationship with the child and a chance to counter the religious indoctrination to come.

Good luck. Try to look forward, not back. I too, tried to reconnect with someone I dated and broke up with when I was in high school. Turns out, I didn’t like the person he became. I liked the good memories, but the reality didn’t match up. I had thought it would be comfortable with someone familiar, like you mentioned. It seldom works out well. We should have left the past alone. Live and learn, I guess.

You'd have to persuade her to give the baby a DNA test to prove anything. Meanwhile, you could just be the patsy she chose to take the fall for an unwanted pregnancy, to win over her parents.