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If you met someone here who seems compatible, and a few dates show that you have chemistry, how far would you be willing to move to be with them more permanently, if at all?
For instance, you'd only move within your own state, out of state, another country, etc.

The usual person in cis hetero relationships likely to move to be with a new love interest is male, but many male-ish females would also do so.

My own answer: the person has to come to me and join my lifestyle. But if the person is already like me, has the same interests, we have great chemistry, and lives somewhere on my bucket list, I might consider moving-especially it it's in a great birding spot near the ocean in a warm place!

I consider myself equally male and female, so it's possible I'd try to adapt to someone else, as males usually do.

birdingnut 8 Mar 27
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I'm so desperate to leave kansas if a stranger in a van offered to take me to Canada if I help him find his puppy I'd climb in.

England is lovely this time of year and there's no TRUMP lol

If I lived in Kansas, I'd feel the same.

I used to play mental tricks to keep from going nuts with boredom when driving across Kansas, even though it's beautiful in its own way, with cool Harris Hawks and dark morph Red-tailed Hawks, called Harlan's Hawks, on top of telephone poles every mile or so.

@birdingnut I live in southwest Missouri and the hawks here so gorgeous! I love them! I'm always keeping an eye out for them and anyone who rides with me will have me spotting and pointing them out to you! It is impressive how they've adapted to humans destroying their natural habitats...

Maybe when you go to sleep tonight you will end up in Oz

@LeighShelton there's tories though lol and Theresa May

yes I know shes like trumps fucking ugly sister

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Relationships have enough burdens on them without the added strain of having to pick up and sink new roots in a new place. I'd maybe move to another area in my own city. I wouldn't expect anyone to move any great distance to be with me. I could almost picture the future arguments: "Where I used to live I had a nice place, friends, a good job, and I gave it all up for you, and now what have I got? Nothing!

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To be honest, I cannot see myself moving at all. Maybe I will catch up with them in the old folks home eventually.

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I give every relationship a minimum of 6 months before I even think of relocating. Even if it is just a few blocks. I want to see how things last, and what might drive me nuts, before I think of moving

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A few dates isn't enough to go on even if there is chemistry. I would be willing to move almost anywhere, but I'd have to be more sure of things than I could ever be that quickly.

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Already had a very close relationship end because he lives in Northern California and I live in Phoenix. We both have fairly important organizing positions on our local disability communities and didn't feel able to leave our brothers and sisters to sink or swim without one of us.

Additionally, I'm tied to AZ by a professional license.

Now, if he's rich and can get me in as a legal resident on a path to citizenship in Canada, Western Europe, Australia, etc., all bets are off. I want OUT of tRumplandia.

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You'll have to ask me in 2026, but I love my home and my neighborhood, so moving is pretty unlikely for me... unless I decide to rent it out once the boy finishes college. Then who knows?

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I moved from Florida to Maine. Lived there for eight years.
When the marriage ended, I moved back. I honestly cannot conceive that I would
ever do that again. Anyone else (and there's not likely to be anyone else-I might be blind,
but I ain't stupid) would have to come to me.

where were you in Maine?

@sassygirl3869 Portland and Windham

Worked at camp in Raymond. Years as sales rep in ME

@sassygirl3869 Yep, Raymond was right up the road from my house in Windham.

Right -also worked at Patriquins Lodge and Square peg in college. Small world. And club was Serenity Hill.

@sassygirl3869 Sorry, not familiar with any of those places.

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I would only move if I managed to get a comparable job. If there's a job waiting for me, I'd move anywhere within 20-30 minutes from an international airport and no snow.

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I'd have to have a longer 1-2 year relationship with regular visits to even think about it

Sunny Level 4 Mar 27, 2018
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In all honesty, I would love 2 move. But back in the real world, I'm a single mom, with anxiety, who needs several surgeries before I can get my happy little butt back 2 work. I doubt I'd be able 2 afford 2 move across town right now, let alone another country. I very much would like 2 see so many different places though

Byrd Level 7 Mar 27, 2018

I feel you. My itch to travel is strong right now but I have three more years before my youngest turns 18. I'm almost done with my surgeries too. Hope you heal up quickly

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Good morning nut! I like your description of the male-ish females and the other types you describe in your posts. I think it's true. I've tried to decide if I'm "male-ish" since I like to dominate...(lol...not sexual). I've just been in charge for so long....but in answer to your question, my family is all in Missouri (my kids and grandkids) so I think I'd want to stay somewhat near....day trip distance perhaps. I'd move further away...but the relationship would have to be special and solid.

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I have done the long distance romance. Never again.

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I would move After my youngest turns 18, which is 2020. We'd have to know each other particularly well because living with someone is always different that living separate. It's more personal.

I'm not sure of your ratios of men moving more than women. I've not seen that myself.

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It would take a lot to move me right now. At other points in my life, probably significantly less. There are so many variables that I cannot speak to at this point.

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I am open to relocation - anywhere - if I'm in love.

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At this point in time I'm not willing to move. I love where I live, and my family is nearby, and I don't want to be too far away from them.

2

Lived and worked in 4 different countries spread over 2 continents, I don't think I'd be willing to move to another country again.

ABack Level 6 Mar 27, 2018
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Anyplace in the USA if they are in a warmer climate.

dc65 Level 7 Mar 27, 2018
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Couldn't, I care for my aging parents.

1

I wouldn’t move

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Always remember be yourself do not chage for others they must respect you for who you are

Rosh Level 7 Mar 27, 2018
1

I wouldn't move at all

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I wouldn't move, I have to be near my daughters until they're aduls.

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