In a relationship, if the other is not doing something immoral, illegal, destructive or disrespectful, we have absolutely no right to try to force him or her (by coercion, manipulation, or whatever) to change to fit our idealized vision of what he or she should be. In fact such action is disrespectful. If we find that the other is doing something that simply bothers us deeply, yet which is moral, respectful, legal), that person is simply not the right fit for us.
2
Enjoy being online again!
Welcome to the community of good people who base their values on evidence and appreciate civil discourse - the social network you will enjoy.Create your free account
3 comments
Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.This is why it's best to have all cards on the table from the very beginning, so that both partners have the opportunity to make a determination about what they can or can't tolerate. Sometimes, though, after years of living together one partner throws the other one hell of a curve. That can be a real nightmare.
Deb57
Level 8
Jan 12, 2020
1
Nobody is going to change by being nagged or disapproved of. Nobody. Never. Period.
AnneWimsey
Level 9
Jan 12, 2020
3
I don't need another project, I have beaucoup plus 20 projects. I would like a partner though.
HippieChick58
Level 9
Jan 11, 2020
3
Enjoy being online again!
Welcome to the community of good people who base their values on evidence and appreciate civil discourse - the social network you will enjoy.Create your free account
Share this post
Categories
Agnostic does not evaluate or guarantee the accuracy of any content. Read full disclaimer.