“If we take eternity to mean not infinite temporal duration but timelessness, then eternal life belongs to those who live in the present.”

• Ludwig Wittgenstein

"the dying of self"? How do I promote this concept? This is metaphysical happy talk. I don't promote what I don't believe.

"If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?" RuPaul.

What's the full reference? I would like to read it in context.

I would not personally promote either concept. The first one is pretty meaningless and the second one presumes that eternal life would be a desirable outcome. The outcome I seek in connecting with others is the connection, itself.