Wondering if this situation occures often when visiting with religious freinds and in the conversations about others they say he or she is "struggling to find their faith" or they have their "struggles getting closer to Christ"? What would be a polite come back to their misaligned guidence counseling?
I would tell them: Christ needs your worship. Let him come to you. You have the power.
I wouldn't be interested in a comeback. I'd try to change the subject...
Could you please pass the sugar” or “did you make these biscuits yourself?”
I would be unable to give a polite com back. The best I could do would be "uh-huh".
In reality, none of my friends are sufficiently religious to make such an observation.
Say "Are you also struggling to find Santa Claus again?"
I think when people are struggling is not a good time to complicate things for them by challenging their worldview. Being a good friend, being sympathetic, non-judgmental, supportive, willing to listen, etc. may be more helpful. Role-modeling is often a better teacher than lecturing.
I'm reluctant to challenge someone when they're down and apparently seeking feedback. I would be tempted to tell them to let go of their fantasies. But, nobody has ever put themselves in that position with me.
A polite, but thoughtful response might be "Maybe they aren't actually struggling. Maybe they're very comfortable with where they are now."
This subtly shifts the focus away from god, and toward the person in question. It (hopefully) redirects their energies toward wondering, rather than judging.