I'm looking for advice. I'm facing a potentially life threatening health issue (waiting on test results), and I'm pretty much on my own. I have close friends and family, but almost all are in other states. Do I reach out to my family, who I know would come out to visit and help, despite the fact that I know they will call on Jesus a hundred times every hour and drive me insane with wanting me to be Baptized, etc? Or do I suck it up and just ask some coworkers and not particularly close friends to help a little here and there? I'm not particularly fond of either scenario.
This is not a Covid- 19 post, to be clear during this crazy pandemic time.
One step at the time .
Get the results .
Find out what type of help u will need .
Find out / estimate for how long u will need help at best case and for how long at worse case .
Make a game plan for the worse case , name it plan B , and don’t try to see it happening .
Aim for best case plan . Make preparation if needed for best case plan .
Reach to the people who u feel comftable to be around when u look and feel like crap . The people who u are ok with if u don’t have make up on or a clean kitchen or bad breath .
Those are the people u will need to ask for help . The rest will add frustration regardless if u love them or they love u .
My opinion of course .
If u need an ear or anything re results , msg me . I can offer whatever I know or listen . I have been alone for many many years and I understand the fear .
Breathe . I wish your results are easy and manageable without big stress .
Superb advice.
Wait for results, then if therapy is warranted, call them and tell them exactly what kind of support you need from them and, also, what you don't want to hear from them if they decide to come and help, a patient's mental health is paramount when receiving any serious treatment.
Research your condition and what is available.....we are so lucky to have internet info nowadays...and do not panic! Years ago a very active woman in our dog club was told she had RA...she immediately assumed she was going to be crippled, and gave away her 2 beloved Labradors, only to be sent to a specialist who prescribed a daily pill that worked great. Luckily her friends gave her dogs back. NEVER assume the worst, or your abiity to cope with things
Correct information is always our friend in medical situations even when it is initially difficult to hear.
I agree with my cohorts who've cautioned you to wait for the results.
Assuming your family, as you've described, would be an unlikely source of comfort, and your coworkers (and only you could answer this) might just be like a bunch of characters from The Office, you seem to be without a lifeline. Not necessarily true. Either one family member you never really knew, or one with whom you work might surprise you.
People who aren't total jerks to others are sometimes shocked by the reaction to what you've described as "sucking it up" and asking for help. You seem to already know how your family will likely react, so unless there's a family member who's ready, able and willing to jettison Jesus (or at the very least, help without proselytizing), I recommend you give your colleagues a chance.
wait for the results. if its something life threatening, call on your family first, and then your friends can help out as needed/ step in if everything goes to hell
I think your family should at least be told. They are family. Then fill in as needed.
absolutely
Try to find support through www.recoveryfromreligion.org
They may have someone who can talk, hang or even assist with rides, you'd have to call to see who was in your area. Nice folks, oft work individually outside of the main mission.
You came with a sincere request for suggestions . The one at the bottom of this list sounds positive and productive . If I may suggest , a few of these others sound more like kicking you while you're already down . May I suggest that you remember , on this site you can block the negative forces that attack you , here .
Is there anyone to whom you have already confided your situation? If so, that might be a clue as to who you should call. Or you may simply have to rely on whoever is closest to you. Kinda depends on what sort of help you need. It is getting more difficult to travel these days so the farther away ones may not be able to help.
Good luck.
If it were me...I would use the relatives that I felt comfortable with, regardless of their religion! Lol. But, friends will come to your aid, if you ask them. We all need to ask for help, when we are really in need...I would drop whatever I am doing and come to the aid of a friend (even a stranger). Take care and be safe.
Family, if you can ask them to respect your position and not do that in your presence.
I go with one step at a time find out first and if you have it you can't seriously think of going anywhere have ppl calling so they know how you are ask for groceries to be delivered if you can get any one step at a time according to the test results
and what you are such a baby you can't stand anyone else's faith around you if it gives them peace get fucking baptized no skin off your ass
@creative51 Oh please, a little humor in difficult times.
@creative51 we all have diff levels of compassion and humor and say what you will I hear it on here all the time .... I can't take them trying to prey for me .... really get the fuck over yourself if it makes them happy then just let them praise whoever and since arguing is futile hush you can love someone without loving every thought or belief and why not get those big person undies and deal
Perhaps a support group for your condition could be a useful plan c)? Hoping there’s something for you.
On recovering from a break down in 2008 I made a couple of great friends that I’m still in touch with
I would seriously consider getting help from family first, or those very close friends who have the emotional energy and time to care for you. Blood is thicker than water I’ve found. My family is a f%^*%! nightmare, but when the chips are down, we are there for each other most of the time. It’s not easy. I hope the test results are ok and if not I’m so sorry. Wishing you the best
In a potentially life shortening condition that is acute, it is therapeutic to have people around you who care. If a number of friends are around who care, obviously, that would be more convenient. Life is about this world and if family are more concerned for you in the next world than here, they're likely more focused on 'storing treasures in Heaven' for themselves. It would be a good prior question to pose if they express wishes to help.
If more caring about you here, they'll respond as their Jesus would, showing respect, compassion and support for you and who you are in this world and let the rest be between you and their god. Only you and not a stranger can know how they'll react to you putting it to them that way.
Best to you on both your diagnosis and your family.
Times like this are when not particularly close friends and co workers become close and you learn who and who not to become closer to. Opening yourself up to others for help can be hard but the rewards of learning that there are people who will come through for you are awesome. I did 20 years in the military and found out not to discount anyone when the chips are down. Some of the most repugnant people where the ones that stood shoulder to shoulder with me when the going got rough. Open up to your co workers and find out that some of them will be your new close friends. And learn a lesson about the ones who won't help.
Contact anyone you think you can trust. Someone will eventually give you a helping hand.
This is your opportunity to show them that first, you are dedicated to being what you are . . . . . if they cannot accept that, it says more about them than it does about you.
If they happened to be as shitty as my family though, I would not contact them to save my life, and they would learn I was gone probably a long time after the fact.
I just hope you can get the procedure you need before this pandemic mess interferes. Afraid I don't have advice about relatives vs colleagues. Again, with this pandemic you may have to be happy to get any help you can. When I was in an auto accident in my twenties I felt like my religious relatives were an enormous burden when I was in hospital. But then, they weren't doing anything of use for me except earning brownie points for doing the right thing. Good luck!
My cousin lives in Spartanburg, S.C. but she is another fundy and not anyone I can recommend I'm afraid. I was out that way for the eclipse a couple years back. Everyone in my family out that way is born some more apparently. Given your line of work I imagine it must be very hard for you to find a kindred spirit there. Best of luck on that score too.
You say "life threathening health issue"...i think some or one family member should be involved...unless you think that would cause adverse effects.
Unless you developed a friendship with a coworker, i dunno.
Weird question...can you a hire temporary assistant? Pay them a couple hours a week etc.