My younger brother died a year ago and I still have not grieved either. When my father died 25 years ago, it took me weeks to grieve.

I get a bit sad or retrospective from time to time but have no real grieving and I wonder why myself

I have no words of wisdom, just wanted you to know that you are not the only one

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. This virus has unleashed like a hurricane.
Its going to be someone's brother, sister, mother, father, son, daughter, grandparents, friend, neighbour, colleague and the loss is always going to be painful. Speak to the rest of the family for now and draw comfort from each other. Continue the social distancing and stick to lockdown rules even through your grief as we cannot afford more tragedies and the traumatic experience for those left behind. ...and try keep your sanity through this difficult period as I believe the worst for any country is not over yet and we need to be strong. I trust that my message has comforted you in some way. Take care.

Tell us about your brother, the fun times the things you were proud of the things that bugged you. Basically the things that make him real to you.

A brother of mine died some time ago. I mourned for a few days, and then decided to look at the good things in life. As time moved on, I became happier. Time heals all wounds.

I am sorry for your loss. Look forward to what you want in your own life, and know that it's okay to be happy again. It will get better as time goes on.

My heart goes out to you...I am so sorry that your brother has been a victim of this pandemic sweeping the world. You are in shock at present and will feel all the more helpless and bereft for not being able to closely communicate this with friends and family, who in normal times can bring strength and comfort by close human touch and contact. I was suddenly bereaved last year when my elder son took his own life, I can’t imagine how I would have coped without that human contact with others who were grieving too. All I can say is please try to focus on the positives, on the good times you had together and hold those memories dear. Grieving is different for all of us and when the numbness and bewilderment of his death passes you may feel anger, and sadness in waves, tears will come too, and they are a safety valve and shouldn’t be suppressed. Most of all keep well yourself and remember the love.

Sorry for your loss.
The only thing that I can suggest is treasure the memories, breathe and keep moving on, this is what he would've wanted.
Grief is natural, we experience and express it in different ways. You don't need to be howling at the moon to grieve.
Don't cut yourself off from those around you, try to enjoy your life as best you can, revel in the company of others and above all hold the memories dear.

Sorry to hear that your brother is gone. Were you two close? Do take good care of yourself.

Here is what has worked for me:

The reason you are sad (I assume) is because he brought you joy, happiness. You will miss that. When you feel sad, remember the good times and how many you had with him. His being gone is not something you can control, and sadness won't help you. You can control your mind and emotions, and focus on what he did that made you happy.

This is the essence of Stoic philosophy, which you may find useful.

Good luck.

It's going to hurt, it's going to hurt for a while and it may never stop hurting. It's like a huge weight lands on your shoulders and although it may not go away, you learn to be strong enough to carry it. Try writing a letter of goodbye and take your time doing it. That can help you get stronger. Drugs and alcohol only postpone the pain which you'll eventually have to face anyway but with interest. I lost a brother 2 years ago and I still weep at his loss, when no-one is watching. Most of the time I'm fine. It just sucks. Take care.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It's always hard, especially when in these circumstances. I'm starting to give you some encouragement. Life won't stop. You can do anything in his honour. You can start doing something that you like to get comfort there. I'm not comfortable in being specific on this because you're different from me and what works for me might not work for you. Anyway, I hope you find a way to deal with this and I think you can count on the people here. All the best for you!!!

Sorry,went through this with mom,died on Easter two sisters had a service my other sister and I weren't invited

So very sorry for your loss.

Grief takes many forms for many people. It's surprising to me how so many people
still have expectations about how they, and others, are "supposed" to grieve any loss.
Not everyone cries, and not everyone experiences profound sadness.
Not doing either of those things does NOT mean the person didn't mean a great
deal to you.

Please be gentle with yourself, and do not worry about how you move through
this period. There is A LOT going on right now.
You may (or may not) have your reactions to your brother's death later on, after
this whole pandemic has eased and there is some sense of "normalcy" in your
life again.
It might hit you six months from now, or next year, or not at all.
It's okay if it never does. You are not expected to react according to how anyone
else thinks you should.

Please know I'm available if you need an ear, or a shoulder.
Or just another perspective.

Take care.

I sympathize, and offer my condolences. My son passed away on April 3rd, not from COVID, but still the family is unable to grieve in any normal way. We have decided to plant trees in his honor, so at least something living can take root and grow. I wish I had more to offer at this time. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm not so sure anyone can help you with the grieving process. Grieving is different for each individual. I always despised when people would tell me that "it gets better with time". It hasn't for me. You learn to live with the pain because you have no choice. It sounds grim and I apologize for that. I do wish you well.

i am sorry. there is no way to make it better, and nothing deeper for me to say than that i am sorry, which i am. i can't even imagine. as for grieving, don't force yourself. it will come when it comes. you don't have to do it anyone's way but your own; you do you. take care.

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Sorry for your loss . One of my older brothers was killed in a work accident when he was 43. It took awhile to get past the disbelief, and then the anger; but it did happen. Don't try to force anything. Allow yourself to feel what you feel at any given moment, whatever that might be.

My kids' grandfather died Friday in Florida. My daughter, who's currently self-isolating with my son and daughter-in-law in Ohio, expressed pretty much the same thing. She found Reddit groups of people who are sharing very similar experiences.

Unfortunately, I think you may have a large number of people sharing your experience before this is over.

I'm sorry for the heartbreaking loss of your brother.

The stages of grief are not absolutes. Each person's grieving process is different.

My father died at Christmas when I was 24. He was buried on Dec. 24. You can imagine what Christmas was like for my family after that. "Marker" dates can be awful.

For five years, I got sick in December, bottling up grief and pain. Then I threw away the medicine bottles. Decided to honor Dad on the day he died, on his birthday.

I light a candle in his memory. My father was a professional jazz trumpet player. Play jazz songs on my flute. Hang trumpet ornaments, creating a small brass section.

I thank Dad for the gifts he gave me (intelligence, humor, musical talent). Forgive his mean behavior.

I still feel sad at Christmas ("Oh, no, not again." ) But I am gentle with myself, instead of feeling only pain.

So sorry for your loss. Love and hugs to you.

I think it can be a long process and without rules or a right and wrong way to do it. To me the worse part of this corona virus, are that people die alone and both do not have the closure usuall possible.

For me, I think of the good times and all the contributions they made in me being who I am. I have done this for breakups too.It slowly shifts my sadness and in some cases feeling of devastation, into feeling really fracking lucky we got to have the dance together.

Sorry for your loss. Grieving is personal and does not have a timeline. Take as much time as you need and do not be pushed by others who want to define your grief. We are all different. I had a wife who died once and a boss who tried to tell me to "snap out of it." A few months later his own wife died in what was to have been a simple surgery. I think as I look back on all this it took me a few years to get back to normal again, if I ever did indeed get back to normal. Take all the time you need.

Don't be in a hurry, sometimes grief takes a long time, and sometimes it does not come right away. Sometimes doing something you used to enjoy doing together, just now and again, helps, its painful at first but if you stick with it, it helps the happy memories to grow over the bad, and make you feel you are keeping faith with their memory.

Look up emotional numbness. It is common and natural. Often when things hurt people shut out all emotion subconsciously as a defence mechanism. You are grieving. You are a normal person. With that I feel for you nd wish you the best. Emotional numbness does not in any way mean that one does not care, instead it is sure sign that one does. This is much better than when my mother died when I didn't care. There were reasons. I actually still struggle and feel guilty for not caring.

Sorry for your loss, but may I ask why haven't you been able to grieve? Grieving is very personal and does not require being somewhere special or going anywhere, which are the restrains we have now.

Sorry for your loss. Thanks for posting this. It is an important reason for having this site.

He died of course, a victim of political decisions which he was unaware of. Being taken through failed democracy.

A good memorial for anyone would be to make the living more aware that science and politics have to merge seamlessly.