I don't look at it anymore as a "dating site", it's just a place for 'cool cats' to hang and discuss topics more geared to rational peoples thinking.

Having myself been on more typical dating sites in the past, and also on the popular social media sites, this platform takes a lot of effort (read: big brother is profiling you.) I liked the idea of a non religious group because of the intelligence level of most of the members, but honestly, that does Not reveal whether there is really potential for a "match". I find I really don't want to grow this site, and I don't want to play pen pals with men who are not ready or capable of committing.
I've tried the direct approach and fellas, let me tell you, this is a two way street. It seems you are waiting for me to come to you, then you better get busy convincing me why I should, because otherwise, I'll wait for Prince Charming to ride up in his Limo and take me out to dinner.

On the general forum you get that a bit. Most of the “connections” you’re looking for are going to be found in groups. Try joining one.