I'm lying.

Seems almost routine with online "dating".... but that doesn't mean WE have license to do so. When I run into that I still enjoy my lunch/dinner with the lady, make pleasant conversation and pay the bill. But there's no movie and zero chance of a 2nd date! I'm a stickler for the truth, always. And I'm amused by the sputtering excuses as she tries to explain why the photo was 10-years old (but I look the same, doncha think?) and how she had a typo in her age that the site won't fix. Uh-huh. But when they launch into explanations about "chem-trails" and the "Apollo Moon Hoax", I always know it will be an entertaining meal anyway! I've enjoyed most of them anyway for the unique entertainment, even though there's likely no needle in this haystack.

Love your respect for honesty. Wish our orange Furer was so inclined.

Sorry that happened to you and even more that you are that far away. Ever come over to Indiana where there is not much to do then hit me up, I would love to surprise you how a virtual person with no picture and ridiculous bogus name can become real in the right circumstances. Wish you the best going forward.

Did he change his age and update his picture on the site after your date?

Shaking my head.....I don't get people. I really don't.

Lying and intentionally deceiving are the despicable character traits.

And, then there's the stupidity. Obviously he wasn't the brightest crayon in the box because, how would you NOT notice and ask him about the deceit?

Opia is dead on! Embrace who you are, there's somebody out there that you are perfect for you with all your faults. It sucks when you're waiting to meet someone for the first time and they don't even resemble their photos!

My profile on Bumble and Tinder says, "I'm terrible at lying, so I don't have a fake foot to put forward." (Worded a little differently on both.) I wouldn't want to, either. All pictures are within the last four years, and yes, I dye my hair back to it's original stupid color.

Your rant is indeed well founded. I've lived through several experiences where men misrepresented themselves and then actually thought they could talk themselves into a second date: haha haha! Dumbasses.
I've dabbled in online dating enough to know what questions to ask! And I try to represent myself as faithfully as I can...no doctored pics...all recent...upfront about pot and jeebus...lol... It's all you can do!
Ps...the guys who only have pics of themselves in sunglasses I avoid. Maybe it's silly...but it's a thing with me. Eyes are the window to the character, if you don't believe in a soul...and it feels like they're hiding something....

I think it like that with any dating site. At least it was when I was on them years ago.

Speaking for myself, I've never tried this online dating thing before. Being a widower who is just attempting to see if life can be better, I'm a bit wary of who people are online. I'm me! What you see, is what you get. I'm in my middle 50s, but still have a head lavish long brown hair, without much grey. Beard has gone grey though! I'm NOT just here for sex. Love, would be great, but a fine chat and debate is good too.

Your rant, no doubt, is well founded. I believe this kind of site/format allows a lot of time saving ability to evaluate potential friends and social contacts.

Trying to evaluate 'romantic' or intimate potential isn't reasonable because of the very examples you cite. People trying to make contacts in cyberspace all about sexual potential or screening for that 'one' put the cart before the horse. They are also likely motivated by unhealty drives and better to avoid.

Dating is an inaccurate description of any site on the Internet. One 'dates' (unless blind and arranged) people who are already familiar on some level. What eventuates from this kind of format is meeting, when respective criteria appear to have been met.

Too many people allow fantasies they contrive to rush them into premature, clumsy situations. It isn't necessary.

I totally agree. In my opinion is silly.

I don't get why anyone would want to lie about themselves. If I project a false image, then I would have to remember what lies I've tolfd and to whom, and probably do things I hate doing because i lied and said i liked them. What a bother! No man is worth that!

Not everyone wants the same thing. For some, the anonymity is the greatest appeal. For what it's worth, I'm with you. It's foolish to base a relationship with a lie.

Good rant.