Dementia? I'm very sorry for what you are going through.

I'm betting if she were in her right frame of mind she'd thank you for your compassion.

The experience of dealing with elderly parents can be some of the most difficult in our journeys. I wish your mother peace and hope you and your family find comfort in this difficult time.

Oh gosh. So hard. That's a really difficult decision. My thoughts are with you.

I'm sorry to hear this. I hope it isn't too hard on you.

I share your sadness and laud your courage. It's not pleasant or easy, but it's how thing go. Treasure her memory and live a testimony to the good in her.

We had to do that with my mom also. She was only 51, but she had premature dementia caused by multiple sclerosis. She was bed-ridden and her quality of life was non existant. It was a very hard decision to make, but even now I know it was the right decision. She never would have wanted to live like that if she could have made the choice herself. Peace be with you.

So understand what you're going through. Hope you make it through with the least amount of horribleness possible. My sympathies.

I fully appreciate how bad this feels...taking matters into our own hands, about the care and fate of a loved one, is the hardest thing anyone will ever have to do. That is, if you believe everyone has a right to make his own choices. I have had to help make the decision to 'pull the plug,' on my brother and it was the hardest thing that I have ever done! In your situation, there is a possibility that adverse reactions from meds, could be contributing to the problem. I have friends, where that was the case. My heart goes out to you...

im sorry, my family just went thru a similar battle, half wanting 2 keep my uncle alive(some just for his check) and some wanting to let him go. in the end we did take him off life support and he looked peaceful for the first time in a long time. hope you are as ok as you can be given the situation

There is living and existing so I agree with you. I believe you should be able to be euthanised like you would a loved pet.

What a daunting challenge and experience. I am so glad we share this community so I can respond and offer human-driven support.

I know from my own exerience that it's really tough when generational roles shift and you/we step up as responsible for our parents and other elders. Two things I want to offer as reminders to provide perspetive:

1.  When you do what you have to as your elders reach what is inevitable, you do them the service of sparing them doing it for you--which would be even more excruciating for them. Take comfort in dealing with the 'natural' order. You are sparing them unbearable, unspeakable agony. Take comfort in that.
2.   Nobody gets out of this game alive. Winning isn't not dying. Winning is living a gratifying/satisfying life--and each of us has to do that on our own.

Tough decision, but probably the correct one. My best to you and your sisters. When she passes, remember the good times and move on.

I'm so sorry. But, as others have said better than I could, you're doing the right thing by her.

As a man of age 81, I empathize with your mother. I will end my own life before I will go into a nursing home.

Dementia is awful. Saw both my father's parents and my maternal grandfather and my father in law go through it and my father is showing initial signs of it at 74. You are doing the right thing.

It is very sad, and you are very brave doing what you feel is right for your family

Sounds like you have made the correct choice for her.

I'm so sorry baby girl! I'm off tomorrow. I'll probably sleep all day. Stay strong love! I will hit you tomorrow.

So terribly sorry to hear this. Both of my parents are gone now but it was never wady seeing them age. It is truly sad.

I hear you and I certainly understand. My step father was so afraid of dying in a nursing home that he deliberately made it hard for any one of us to have power of attorney over him. Then, because he could only walk with a cane, he fell and broke his hip. This brought about a long ordeal that finally ended well with my daughter as his POA. He's in a good nursing home and has dementia. I went through hell doing all the legal leg work for this and I know he thinks that I hate him. It's not so.

Recently he got angry with them and threatened to leave. He told my daughter about it and she told him he could not walk. His reply was "has anyone around here ever heard of a cane?"

Such a shame there's not a better way than the uncertainty. Hopefully one day all Countries will have a better answer for people that are at end of life. Best wishes to you and your family at the time of this difficult choice.

I know, We took my mother through the nursing home routine and of course felt the guilt. She became late stage alzheimers and that was it for me. She was not home, nor even in there. ONly 17%, as I have read, die at home. I believe to let natural death happen. I do not want the white room, white sheets and the tubes. No thank you and I only hope my kids do not do this to be believing it is bes for me, it is not best for me. I would rather have an accident or something that succumb to a life without my mind

Miss you girl! Hoping everything is OK.

Sometimes the kindest thing is the hardest at the time.