It's definitely just who I am. I have no choice but desperately need a decent chunk of alone time or I lose it.
I'm an outgoing person, but 95% introvert.
for me anyway, its sort of a mix of things. yes i was born this way, my mommy told me. but i think thats just a starting point. i think from there it could go either way, and like most things, its a spectrum, not black and white. i do think that trauma played a big part in bringing out the worst aspects of it. one can be an introvert and still live a fairly average life. or, they may end up having a fear of people, new places and experiences. even though i was born prone to being an introvert, and my childhood experiences led me to lean more towards the extreme side for a long time, i can also say that now that ive put some great experiences under my belt as well, and had some help learning how to deal with the bad ones, my views and fears have relaxed a bit.
@NotConvinced i liked the question. i only recently started looking at it this way. and im not even sure if its true for everyone, or if its just for me. i do think our experiences play a big role. but i should add that there is even more at play that i probably don't understand. i know one big thing for me was actually being open to the idea of being less closed off from the world. im not saying being an introvert is a bad thing, but like anything else, it can be taken to the extreme. i allowed my being an introvert to have a bad impact on my life, i didnt like that. so eventually i opened up to the idea of change. i think perhaps if i had only had great experiences, i might have been just fine with being introverted. an odd side note tho, now i would consider myself one of those oddballs on the fence, there are times when i want nothing more than to run away to the woods and not see another person for a month, and there are times where i crave human interaction so much its like a drug.
@NotConvinced oh also, i don't know what to call it, but i wanted to change for a long time and never could, i think even tho i wanted it, i wasnt open to it yet, if that makes any sense.
Probably all of the above to one degree or another.
I'm an introvert mostly because I'm not a big talker. You can totally forget talking on the telephone
@NotConvinced As far as I can remember.
@NotConvinced Of course, being an introvert does not mean that I'm shy, I'm not. Just means that I don't talk alot or go to alot of social functions, that sort of thing. I believe in being uninhibited, life is too short for restrictions, live the way you want to live.