I can be single and be happy. I guess the idea of a relationship is to make one happier. Which is laudable, but HEY !! ....don't get greedy.

Right now I'm in a perfect relationship....which means we don't see too much of each other. No burn out. When we are together, it's intense. Totally focused on each other.
YET....there is a point, a time, when I, or her, are simply ready to leave to get back to our own lives.

WHAT !?!? would happen if we were together 24/7....I shudder at the thought. I fear our love, would die. Our intensity would wither away. I love and desire everything I see in this woman. What would become of us if we were "normalized" .... I mean married?

I'm living it, breathing it, doing it. I realized that I'm better off not attached at the hip with someone else. I have my own place and things, and I don't have to pick up after anyone except myself.

Oh, no prob. I can stray-cat-strut when and how I please. Le paycheck, it all belongs to le moi. The remote, mine. No negotiations about what to have for dinner. Or breakfast or lunch or snack for that matter.

In a city with infinite play like NYC, I can get together with whomever whenever and never be lonely. Or I can get lost in a crowd. Disappear. There is always something to do, places to be and things to experience. Or I can veg on the couch and laze about watching TV and catch catnaps. No problem.

To me, being single is being spoiled for choice. Why would I want to mess that up? Assuming that one doesn't have a "life partner" is equivalent to unhappiness is the first (and primary) mistake in logic. I think it's weird that someone needs another person to "complete" them. It's just... weird.

I do it every day.

At 67, I am happy being single. My life is full and fun with hiking, volunteering, reading, weightlifting, laughing and talking with friends. Never bored.

I refuse to live with a man again. I never worked so hard in my life as when I was married.

your happiness should never be found in another person

I admit that I don't have as much experience as most people my age with LTRs, as I only had one so far in my life, but I was definitely happier during that than during most of my single life, both before and after that LTR. So that is my answer. Maybe if I had experienced more LTRs in my life, and had more of a variety of experiences with them, my answer would be different.

I'm never happy. When I am in a relationship I wish I was single. When I am single I wish I had a partner.

Define happy? I’m content, and compared to how unhappy I was in my marriages, I consider myself lucky to be single. At this point I can’t imagine subjecting myself to that kind of unhappiness again.