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I wonder if skeptical, atheist and progressive thinkers are more open to polyamorous situations, with not jealousy, but accepting the fact people can love more than one.

Perseo1965 5 Apr 20
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Probably. We certainly don't have the religeous hang-ups getting in the way. I don't think I would want that as a permanent life style but it can be a lot of fun to dabble in.

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I know this subject has been beat to death, but here are a couple of natural tendencies humans exhibit when not influenced by societal restrictions / religion / so-called moral indoctrination:

  1. It is in the best interest of a female to mate with the males she believes will help her produce the most successful offspring. She will be selective but she will also inherently understand the need to be diverse and "trade up" if she can. It's relatively easy to find other males to help her support the offspring, if she needs or wants that help. No guarantee the blood father will stick around.

  2. It is in the best interest of males to mate with as many females as they are able, although this is complicated by the fact that there is a lot of competition. High-value males will just go for broke because they can; mid-tier males will want to protect the females they're able to mate with from becoming pregnant by competitors. But even as the mid-tier males do this, they'll be open to any opportunities to mate with other women.

These are all things we all more or less feel, deep down, though I suspect a majority of us won't admit it to ourselves - let alone admit it to others. There are several protected tribes of humans that exist today where we can see these natural tendencies in effect, particularly in the Amazon.

Both of these points support the notion that monogamy and polyamory are both natural. However, sex is a social matter, and human beings have very complex social canals to navigate through in order to keep peace. Societies organically develop their own clever ways to deal with these issues and that's why we see such a diversity of tribal behaviors.

Do you draw distinction between polyamory and polygamy? They certainly are not the same thing although some aspects overlap.

@graceylou At the end of the day, probably not, but I tend to associate polygamy with the word "spouse" or "spouses" and I prefer to use a word more generic for the overall meaning. Polygamy just reminds me of sects like the Mormons and therefore religion.

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I think so too, because we don't feel restricted by the dictates or rules of others when it comes to how we should feel or how we should think. We feel more free to express ourselves (while still knowing what the laws are and still respecting others). I consider myself poly because I am capable of loving more than one person, and it's nobody else's business to tell me I am not.

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It has more to do with your gender traits than your beliefs. I was raised a strict Christian but I never saw a problem with polyamorous relationships, perhaps because as a demisexual I feel no lust for anyone, except after over a year of a close relationship and then only with that one person.
To me, sex is functional, like the digestive system.

Yet I have learned that such multiple person relationships usually don't last long and jealousy tends to get involved, even though I seem incapable of getting jealous myself. If someone cheats on me, I just shrug and leave them.

I used to think I stayed a virgin growing up because I was obeying my mom's rules, but now I see that I'd have been that way anyway, as sex is revolting to me without the bonding element.

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I don't really know. there are religions where having more than one wife is part of it I know. really im more of a one man one woman person unless it's a bit of fun and even then I demand honesty and it's still mostly one on one.

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i have no problem with people who want more than one mate, but its not for me.

Byrd Level 7 Apr 20, 2018
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There is probably some level of correlation, at least on the surface. For atheists, at least, traditional (read: religious) values no longer require lip service.

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There seems to be a lot of Poly People here. I don't know if "we" are more open to that lifestyle, or if people are just more open about their private lives.

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I was in a polyamorous situation years ago, and it worked for a while, but it wasn't easy, and I wouldn't particularly want it to happen again.

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" YES "

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If people comment I suppose you will find out....

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