It's amazing how unfriendly people on this site can be. It's especially disheartening considering it's one place, for all intents and purposes, one would expect people (of our like minds) to BE friendly at least to each other. Each time I make the slightest effort to exchange a few words (doesn't matter about what, and no matter how innocuous) I get the same attitude: like I'm a disgusting wino asking for a handout... I think they get better treatment though.
Never heard of you, and I am on here at least once a day.....lost, are ya?
I was one of the first members, dear. I helped build this place and it was great at first but I lost confidence in it after awhile for the same reasons. I was here every day too and almost reached level 10 and threw it all away. I came back to give it another shot but if anything it's worse. That's your legacy, not mine. I want nothing to do with it anymore...
@AlbertSchepis Ummm,I guess if I had known who i was dealing with I would have added i have been on here almost from the beginning myself, (4-ish years) and mid-level 9, as you could easily see, but I usually try not to hold it over people's heads as a way of showing my "superiority", unlike some.....dearie.
@AnneWimsey Hey, you made the comment that you never heard of me so I merely corrected you that I was here from the start. Just proves my point that this place is more inconsequential than we like to think it is. If anything atheists are just as much snobs as anyone else and don't need anyone. At least believers fake like they have a purpose and build a group experience. It's based on bullshit but it's more than atheists have.
@hankster I don't understand your confusion. What does that prove? That I shouldn't have swallowed my pride, considered it was just me, giving others the benefit of a doubt, hoping for better for their sake, but letting people go ahead and shit on me just because they can and proving I was right all along.
@hankster You don't know me and I don't need your knee-jerk psychobabble. I merely expressed my opinion that this site is a wasted, lost opportunity, not that it's the cause of all my unhappiness... You jump to a lot of conclusions and assumptions. Your avatar kind of fits you but you did post it.
@AlbertSchepis I agree with you that this is a lost opportunity, but as the dating site it was billed as, not a Facebook for atheists. This site is a money loser, and I don't expect it to last forever. When it goes, I may be a little sad at first, but just as eliminating Facebook from my life improved it, I imagine this may too.
@AnneWimsey Haha...he sounds like just another miserable old fart.
@AlbertSchepis If this site is a "wasted lost opportunity", why are you wasteing your time now?
@starwatcher-al Brilliant, @hankster, @Secretguy, @AnneWimsey,. Gee you really caught me there and made me look like a fool for trying, huh? Yeah I admire you guys who wait around for someone to pile on. Is that all this site is about? At least I'm interested in pointing where we could do better, but that's obviously lost on you. And obviously I hit a nerve that all of you would rather just blame me for rather than take some responsibility or simply say "sorry you feel that way". Too much to expect, I know. You people just prove my point.
@AlbertSchepis soooo,back to your original premise, that somehow this site (just like every site on the WWW, is "consequential". Why, because you drop in now & then? I sure do hope your junk is as big as your ego, wouldn't that be wonderful?!
Yeah, all you dumb cunts on this stupid website for like-minded idiots are rude and can all go fuck yourselves. Why would anyone be so mean like you all are? Be nice, like me. And if you think you're nice, guess what, you're not and you can go fuck a goat.
What have you got against goats? Fucking Trumps might be more appropriate.
@anglophone Eeeeewwwwwwwwwww, just Eeeeeewwwwwww
@anglophone @AnneWimsey
If you asked me if I'd rather fuck a Trump supporter or a goat, I wouldn't be able to answer right away. I'd have to ask, "How hot is the Trump supporter?"
If you told me she was hot, I still might pause and say, "Well, how hot is the goat?"
@JeffMurray I like a man who thinks before he humps.
You seem to be right at home here. I wasn't nearly as nasty as you, yet you get all the pats on the back while I get more of what you suggested, that maybe I'm just an old goat who should go fuck one...
@AlbertSchepis Mine was a joke though, bro...
@AlbertSchepis Also, you edited the hell out of your post and we all know it. You were basically telling us all to go fuck ourselves a couple days ago. That's very intellectually dishonest, and if that's how you behave, then you shouldn't be confused why people have been rude to you. So let me scrub the humor from my comment and tell you sincerely, go fuck a goat.
@JeffMurray Jeff, Jeff, Jeff. There's nothing wrong with editing one's posts. Given a little time to calm down it's intellectually stagnant not to. If you can't even allow a fellow to retract some harsh words that upon reflection he thought he should out of respect for others though he never got it from them, I want less to do with you than before.
Fight fire with fire. I usually only go out of my way to be an ass to someone if they are or have been an ass to me. Spend enough time on here you will definitely come across a few people who are unpleasant at best. You will also find some people here are just as ignorant and hypocritical as the Christians they claim superiority over.
I agree... doesn't make it any easier knowing that though.
I'm sorry that's been your experience. I tend to prefer the company of believers because they seem to try harder to get along with people, presumably because they think they're supposed to.
There are some conservative atheists here who are very unpleasant to interact with, not to mention that they refuse to support their factual claims with evidence. And there are many undesirable members whom seem to exist in a world apart, others who seem to have a perpetual chip on their shoulder. I use the block function liberally because life is just too short for me to have any interest in interacting with people in the groups I've described.
But there are some very decent, very caring members to be found if one in patient enough. This site seems to be more conducive to friendship than dating, if that helps. I know your post is borne of frustration, but I hope you will hang in there and that things will improve for you.
Thanks but I stopped looking for dates a long time ago, years, so I have no expectations, and I read peoples bios too so not to offend or anything. It's just weird that friends or just some friendly conversation is out of the question as well. The best I'll get is a polite response and pretty much a fuck off ("I'm not on here, I don't talk to people, don't try" ). At that point I permanently block a person too. I don't need people like that in my life and don't care to read their comments on anything, atheist or not, but I don't get cozy with believers anywhere, so not finding nice people here kind of limits me to no one to talk to at all. Nice to see some decent responses now but this is what it takes to get one.
@AlbertSchepis Yes, it is very easy to become isolated, and also unhealthy. I used to go to a Meetup group for skeptics that turned out to be agnostics and atheists. They were interesting in small doses and I might still be going if I weren't too busy. I think you're doing the right thing, reaching out to people with similar interests. I spend almost all of my time alone doing what needs to be done but I don't feel isolated.
I will speak frankly with you and tell you that I have started friendships here with people that I liked very much, but found them taking up an hour a day or more to keep the conversations going and I'm at a point in my life where I just don't have that kind of time to give. I wish I did. I felt bad bringing those conversations to a close but I had to in order to keep myself on track.
Anyway, I think your frustration is justified. For me, in person contacts are much more helpful to me than anything that happens online. I sure hope things improve for you. I wish people were just generally kinder to each other
@LovinLarge That's insightful and generous of you. You're the exception that proves the rule. Thanks "lovin", you're okay, which I'm sure disappoints everyone else who was sure I just hate everyone and my problems are my own fulfilled prophecy.
I block the meanies. I'm sorry you haven't had a good reception here. Am I wrong, you feel like you've been mistreated, so you're returning the favor?
And returning it in advance?
Pretty much.
By the way I've blocked so many people I'm surprised there's anyone left who can see me at all. So if anyone were to assume I was just here to troll and argue with people, why would I block them? I remember you from the start so you're alright though. I don't hate everyone...
Sorry, I am not interested in fucking you. Are you even fuckable?
I'm not in the mood for your comedy schtick.
@AlbertSchepis Bog off, bug face.
@anglophone Humor doesn't seem to be one of his gifts.
I have not found that, but will take your pre-emptive FU seriously.