Why do you worry so much? I think you need to have a social life again - if you don't already have one. Calm down, life life - it's all waiting for you as long as you don't care people away.

maybe what you called asexual was just your lack of connection with your ex wife and now you have shifted back to your baseline

maybe what you called asexual was just your lack of connection with your ex wife and now you have shifted back to your baseline

Its a fear of failure. Low confidence. Bad experiences sexually in the past. And yes, I did turn asexual to avoid my ex. I have become more self aware since the separation.....I always had a skewed view of sex. Found it shameful. I'm realising how off the mark I was. Most of my close friends are very sexually open and maybe I need to take a page out of their playbook. I know I'm no prude so I think I just need to develop some self confidence and acceptance of my baser urges.

Its natural, go with the flow

As long as it's a consenting relationship (no Jeffrey Dommering), do whatever makes you have the biggest orgasm.

It’s your body telling you to get on with life.

I was celibate for 8 years (my husband and several other people died, I had cancer) and one day, it was like walking out of a fog. I’d start to vibrate every time I got close to a man. I’m sexually active again for better or worse.

Perhaps you were only asexual because you didn’t want to have sex with your ex.

I hate the term 'get laid'. It just debases something special.

There's nothing wrong with sex, it's natural. Why fight against it?