Are there standards for dating nowadays?

As long as it takes and I'm not being a smart arse. Instincts would probably tell you something but if there's any doubt in your/one's mind as to the moment then don't. I think it may be more difficult for women to make that leap but men can also get their own 'bunny boiler' if they're not careful.

I think it's a tricky one to answer and I like the comments, including yours, about meeting before giving a number.

I wouldn't have a time but a feeling about what feels right

I wouldn't have a time but a feeling about what feels right

Im not here to date...but if i were..i would take my time...maybe a couple of weeks for the phone number.... then i would figure it out for meeting up with that lady.... who knows... she may not want to meet me. That could happen...

I prefer shorter online exchanges. The phone provides much more dimension to the communication dynamic and I find it a lot more fun. I say no worries, have a phone conversation. I will also meet someone in person sooner than later. To minimize the potential discomfort of a bad meeting, I suggest you both agree to a time-limited in person meeting and stick to the agreed upon time. After that, either person can ask for a second meeting if there is interest.

I feel that moving from online chat to phone conversations shouldn't be decided only by time constraints but by the comfort levels of the participants.
It is, after all, a mutual agreement.

Sometimes an in-person may not be possible because of geography. At least not without planning.

For me, it boils down to doubt. When in doubt... don't.

Never really done that. There’s this one girl, though, but we met through a mutual friend.

I suppose there is no hard and fast rule. Sometimes you bounce off a person really well, and in next to no time might both wish to exchange numbers. Other times it is slower, but you get to enjoy chatting on line and maybe would like to have voice contact as well. If someone is worried about "appropriate" then why? Worried about what the neighbours might say?
Skype is a good way to first talk. That way, you have an option to avoid "trolling".

I haven't even come close to that situation on line, so l have no point of reference. Unless they live close enough to meet somewhere for coffee l don't see the point. ☺

I would say it's up to the person and how comfortable you are.

Not until I feel comfortable with them.

Well, I don't.
And I never have tried online dating.
So, no help from this old married guy.

My question to you would be.... online dating at all?

these questions about timing are difficult. I guess I go with my gut instinct. THe answer for some would be never and others might be after a few contacts.

right there and then if they don't call you in three days fugget bout it texts don't qualify