So here is an interesting situation I am not sure what to think. I recently found out that my ex who is Canadian is moving from Ontario to Victoria BC.
So here is the story in a nut shell.
I met this man when camping in New Brunswick and really hit it off for a few days there and continued to keep in touch for a few months with visits between cape cod and Ontario. I finally made a leap of faith so to speak and went to live with him after some 6 months of long distance dating and visits.
After my visitors visa expired we were supposed to both spend the next 6 months in the states. Needless to say that did not happen.
We were often like oil and water in our time together.
I moved back to the west coast and started all over again. Thinking I would never see him again.
Now I find him moving to this side of North America. I am excited yet reserved.
What should I do? I am only a few hours drive and a short ferry ride away.
Odd how things work out.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Let me give you a quote to reflect upon, "We were often like oil and water in our time together."
I_dont_know
Level 7
May 12, 2018
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I don't know this guy but it seems to me that if he was interested he will let you know. If you guys did not get along before what makes you think it will now. I would just be cautious.
angelwings
Level 5
May 11, 2018
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What is life without taking chances? Go for the visit, if nothing else it might help you find closure.
HeathenFarmer
Level 8
May 11, 2018
1
Never go back. There’s a reason why you’re not together. The oil and water thing? I think you’re attracted, but you’ve been there. You don’t know why he’s moving either; there could be all sorts of reasons, and none of them are you. You’re in danger of letting your excitement get the better of you. See if he contacts you first, and talk a lot before anything else, if you must follow through with this.
NB: Caveat - I’m not telling you what you should do, just sharing my thoughts.
KevinTwining
Level 7
May 11, 2018
2
Whatever you do, make sure each of you maintains a home of your own. Otherwise if things don't work out well, it could get unnecessarily "complicated".
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Normanbites
Level 7
May 11, 2018
3
I immediately revert to my inner Captain Kirk - shields on maximum!
I think your reservation is well founded. The second time around you know the territory. My suggestion is to use that. And if that territory is not for you, just walk away with your head held high.
Palindromeman
Level 7
May 11, 2018
4
Just like @birdingnut said: oil and water. Not telling you what to do at all but that sounds like a lot of drama. Some people like that and some don't. Also don't you have the big change of a new job and place to live coming up too? Hope whatever you decide works out. 
kmdskit3
Level 8
May 11, 2018
4
Be very careful. My exe's daughter got into a similar situation, almost identical actually. She eventually went to Ontario, married the guy, then found out what a psycho the guy really was. She's been trying to finalize the divorce for over a year now. Admittedly, her situation involved some impulsiveness. Just be careful.
Condor5
Level 8
May 11, 2018
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Unless either of you have changed substantially, nothing has changed.
Still oil and water.
birdingnut
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May 10, 2018
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