A friend of mine asked me about dating. Cause you know I am an expert. ..
She has never really had anyone she has wanted to date and was wondering what you do on a date.
I said do whatever you would do with a friend and if it turns saucey then call it good.
But I thought about it and realize that I don't know what a date is. I just go out with a friend or someone with the idea that it's just 2 people getting together.
Am I missing something?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.NO, you're not missing anything. Dating is different for each of us. Personally, I'm definitely NOT a dating expert. Woo'ng a woman? I don't know what that is. Here I am. Do you like me? Great! I need weeks of time spent in conversations with someone before I can determine whether I will continue to make an effort at a relationship with that person.
I_dont_know
Level 7
May 20, 2018
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Date? Ummmmmmm..... I think I did that once. It rings a bell.
patchoullijulie
Level 8
May 13, 2018
3
You are in a beautiful part of the country..plenty of great places-national monuments, etc. where you can have a date.
A date is a formal agreement to meet somewhere to do certain things. The first few dates are best done in public, driving separate cars, for safety..
I used to meet for a first date at a Bar-B-Q place at Cave Run Lake, near Morehead, KY, with a hike and rock climb afterward up Lockegee Rock, highest point in three counties.
That way if the guy was a dud, I still got a great meal and had a wonderful hike, usually seeing many migrating bird species as they crossed the top of Lockegee on the migration flyway.
One guy actually liked it, and wanted to do more hikes with me. He also loved that I did ballroom dancing and was eager to learn also. We were together for two years, having a great time star gazing, ballroom dancing, going to art museums, traveling together to Mexico, etc.
birdingnut
Level 8
May 13, 2018
2
Wull, a date is a small fruit.
How you're going to "do" anything on it is beyond m.....
Oh.......wait........nevermind...
Slappy_Longarms
Level 7
May 13, 2018
2
Can someone please enlighten me on what this topic is about ??
VAL3941
Level 8
May 13, 2018
0
@Silverwhisper
After reading your book I am now more confused than ever, Sorry ? Lol
@Silverwhisper
Teenagers in my country are more confusing than you are ?? Lol
@Silverwhisper
Then I must for the meal ??! Rather stay confused !
@Silverwhisper
Thank goodness ! Marriage OUT.
Yes... First of all, on a date... you pay. Subconsciously, you're responsible for them having a good time. And Never, Never, Never call it a date. BTW, if she claims, "this is not a date"... You are in the friend zone. When this happens, you take charge of and hold that friend zone line. I made several close friends this way. Plus, I know them so well, I wouldn't want to date them. A date is more about getting to know who the other person is and likes, history, their relationship with family, temper, how they handle situations, are they mean or kind to the wait staff, talk bad about others and how they think others treat them. These are all clues on how they are going to treat you. With friends, the pressure is off. They are responsible for themselves. So, 1st two dates are mostly talking. If there is no conversation, it is a sign, it probably most likely not going to work out. It is like a Poker game, no one is going to tell you what they have in their hand. It takes time to reveal the bad.
DragonFZ
Level 5
May 13, 2018
1
@germangirl90439 I agree with your idea, but nothing is free.
@germangirl90439 I simply am of the opinion that if you ask someone out on a 'date', you should pay. And my last comment is a reality. There is nothing for free. Say you and someone decided to go out for the evening and just planned on spending time together, maybe for a hike. Transportation cost something. Ok, you've decided to walk or ride a bike. Well, shoes cost money, bikes cost money. Nothing is free. Even 'free things' cost something: time, money for repairs, something.
@germangirl90439 I'll expect to if we ever go out. You can rightly so leave your expectations at home and simply enjoy the time together.
@germangirl90439 "Why is there an assumption that one pays on a date?"
I had to reread what I wrote. There's probably a misunderstanding... my assumption is the man pays. The woman pays by the time and effort getting ready for the date. Guys, just 5 minutes looking at the mirror and smell if the shirt is clean.. LOL.. I'm liberal, but it is expected... just like opening doors for a lady. Otherwise, both look pretty silly starring at the door. Be the man and take initiative, take lead and open the door and pay the check when it comes. If there are any woman who has some disagreement, you also want the guy to take lead and ask you out and not the other way around. In addition, it is also a man's job to approach a woman at the bar. The man has to stick his neck out for rejection. Ladies are constantly getting rejected when they give the look and they don't get the guy's interest or telepathic message... LOL
In a "date" there's an underlying potential for intimacy, perhaps an enduring relationship. Sometimes one may think it's just a friendly meet up, the other, a date. ;D
seattlepanda
Level 7
May 13, 2018
3
I think dating is dated,
something you do prior to 1st marriage?
now you have done it,
I have so confused myself.
I go out for coffee lunch etc with many women as friends,
but never consider that dating,
in my world even when I have met a lady from a dating site,
I don't regard the 1st few meetings as dates,
they are just a chat to get to know each other.
I have no idea now.
Rugglesby
Level 8
May 13, 2018
2
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