I will like to know male/female if intellectual knowledge, turns you on sexually and or feel attracted to continue any type of arregment ,friends , relationship or marriage [obviously not in church just legally] ?
I like intelligent men. It's difficult for me to have a conversation with anyone who isn't
intelligent.
As far as relationships go, I'm fairly certain I'm done with all that. I don't expect to have
another. If I were to, there is no way I'd EVER get married again.
I don't believe in it. Marriage is an antiquated social construct that benefits no one but the government and divorce lawyers.
Yep. One of the biggest turn-ons with my wife is that's she's so f'ing smart. Much smarter than me. I love being challenged during debates...it's too easy to find a push-over....just look at 50% of the nation who voted for Trump
I know of people who are IQ 148+ with graduate degrees in STEM who voted for Donald Trump, just FYI because the notion that Trump voters are stupid is just echo-chamber talk.
@DZhukovin Having said that, though, I will concede that there are probably 1/10th of 1% of Trump voters who are educated, and highly intelligent, but still dumb as a box of rocks. They are the educated people like the EPA Administrator, Scott Pruitt, who denies climate change and is undoing all the wonderful things past presidents have done to protect our environment. Or folks like the ultra conservative Bettsy DeVoss who wants all our kids to go to religious private charter schools and wants to eliminate public schools. I could go on....the bottom line is, degrees and intellect (and money as is the case for 99% of this jackasse's cabinet) can still not equate to smart and ANYONE that voted for Trump is, imho, as ignorant (stupid for those who knew better but did it anyway because of the "Crooked Hillary" chant bandwagon) as is humanly possible.
Definitely sapiosexual here, but spoken for.
I'm not mating, dating, or copulating anymore, but I still get stupidly turned on by something that rings a critical intellectual or philosophical bell for me--whether it be a correctly used obscure word, a particularly creative turn of phrase, or an especially astute observation or interpretation.
I don't even want children (too old, now) but sometimes I still hear something and get a little zing of "You used 'equivocate' correctly--and unself-consciously--in a sentence: PUT YOUR BABIES IN ME NOW!"
Intellect (ability to discuss and reason) and knowledge(facts) area often separate - lotsa people know a lot but can't reason and some really uneducated people really are intellects -- when combined -- an unbeatable combination -- for friends, a LTR - or whatever lets us spend time together. As for hot and passionate sex - lets just say other factors come into play. I may enjoy discussing the origin and history of math, science, law, medicine - said discussions raise my level of respect for the other - but don't raise the heat of passion. That being said, anyone w/ an intellect who applies the skills and knowledge to creating a sexual tension can do so
I don't understand your question, sorry.
lol. I see what you did there.
As Paris would say...
Ha ha!
I wish I were that smart... (I didn't see what I did there...)
I just thought the OP's question was messily written and badly worded. That's all.
I love intelligent people - - and am attracted to intelligent women - however the reverse seems to be tru when applied to me
I'm definitely sapiosexual. Smarts and sense of humor were the two criteria essential for me to be attracted to a man. Looks not so much since the packaging changes over time. Not all educated people are smart and not all smart people are educated, but there tends to be a relationship. I look for these characteristics in friends, but now I"m out of the relationship game. Just too much effort for too little reward.
I am slightly more attracted to intelligence, but I will be lying if I don't say there has to be a physical attraction too. In doing so you really take in the person in all their beauty
Darlin', I was looking for you decades ago. Now I am a 69 year old, very sexually active man, and now you appear. Life goes on and we make the best of it.
I live in Kissimmee, golf in Hunter"s Creek, and work with Mears Transportation, as an event transportation coordinator.
My social filters have worn away, and I am enjoying this life immensely.
Appreciation and Gratitude are my best friends. Right now I am appreciating that you exist.
The secret to sapiosexuality which isn’t a secret is intelligence titilates and delights. What makes one initially attracted to another is something that gives us a mini rush of adrenaline! As a growth hormone that adrenaline encourages nerve growth & redundancy... maybe a tissue paper padded bra encouraged a pattern of behavior in boys ( ooh! Did I see that!? maybe I’ll try to look again!) and perhaps a bad boys double entendres (naughty!) got a young ladies ears perked up...as we wait for the next rush of dopamine/ endorphins/ whatever that wacky mad scientist Evolution is whipping our little nervous system with- the suspense builds!
Ah, sweet wit! Sweet suspense!
Sweet release!
Interesting question since sexual attraction and it's impact on our lives is such a large part of behaviourism, as well as my life-long passion. I also had to look up sapiosexual, a term other commenters used and one i hadn't heard before.
Love the evolution of language except when they're counterproductive. It has been my experience that many use them as armour or walls, instead of opportunities to disarm and to grow emotionally.
I guess that I have evolved into being "sapiosexual." Lol But in my teens and 20s, the physical far outweighed the intellectual in terms of my criteria since those i targeted had to look good in my vintage 'Vette'. Lol Then one morning in my early to mid-30s, after looking into a mirror, I had to accept and reflect on whether i was being what i hated most; namely a sexist and manipulator.
So as I moved into my 30s, my priorities shifted, and continued to re-balance until an intellectually stimulating woman attracts me, but her physical design has become generally irrelevant. It's my view that all shapes and sizes are beautiful, even if they don't satisfy the external criteria with which the media and masses define beauty. In any case, it's the beauty in a person's heart which is most important to me.
Back to the original question, for the past 35 or so years I have evolved until intellectually attractive attributes are a much greater sexual turn on than physical ones for me. This major change has served to enhance my life, and still does.
This interests me.
(First, having some degree of "book smarts" is something you're born with, ex. you don't take credit for having those blue eyes, do you?)
Developing your knowledge base?, being open-minded?, kind? yeah, take credit for that!
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I'm likely gonna share more than I ought... But here goes;
I was born in a very provincial area and time, the pretense of religion, of "nothing wrong with our family, keep movin'"...
(There were fairly intelligent people around me; as well as average, and lower types. My parents both were pretty smart, as am I, not trying to brag, you'll see).
But how horridly messed up that world was...
I'm certain many/most of us know being intelligent is not enough, alone. The abusive patriarch person used his brains to hide his abuse, manipulate, lie and scheme.
I " fell" into assorted stupid situations, because I didn't know different, and didn't think, and couldn't imagine that there could be anything better for me, out there.
Years fly by, I live and do and grow older.
I meet someone (here) intelligent, kind, sure of his abilities and weaknesses, open minded, honest, able to joke, accepts me for who I am, ( and am not).. We feel like old friends.
Where it goes from here, we don't know. There are hurtles, but ... We'll see.
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Similar traits, including intelligence, they matter.
But you cannot isolate one, as many of you have noted.
I am a bit of a sapiosexual: attracted to highly intelligent men with a great sense of humor. Also he needs to be fit and athletic, and treat me with respect and kindness.
But when a funny, intelligent man is fat and out of shape, I'm out. Not attracted to rolls of fat.
@TifaStgo, Your comment doesn't make sense.
Yeah, I am attracted to it. Do I use it as a deciding factor? No. There are plenty of knowledgable but stupid people out there, so I don't pretend that intellectual knowledge is a big deal.
Now, would I spend much time with that kind of a woman? Probably not. People that aren't educated in my experience never seem to have any interesting subject matter to talk about, other than stupid news headlines, B-movies, etc.
As I stated, I am pansexual. I am not solely sapiosexual, although I do look for intelligence. I am very open-minded, although I cannot enter into a relationship with an idiot. Maybe as acquaintances, but that is about it.
To enter into a relationship, the person has to at least have common sense. For marriage/union/etc., the person needs to at least possess knowledge equal to high school. Although I did not go to university, I only have a HS diploma, I am not an idiot. I just fail to see how putting myself in debt, for, (at least), a four-year degree adds to my worth.
Sorry for going on-and-on, but you get my point.