Such a rare find but when and if you do ever find, hold on and treat them well. It is all about the small simple gestures.
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<3 I haven't been in a relationship in a very, very long time, but this is exactly how it is supposed to be. Thank you for sharing this.
TheWonderer
Level 4
May 19, 2018
6
Nothing wrong with buying flowers and chocs. And I find the post somewhat dated and patronising in that women should be ashamed of being seen with no make-up. I see men without make-up all the time, and I don't think any less of them. I mean, really?
GoldenDoll
Level 7
May 19, 2018
7
I agree.
And offering foot rubs and knowing how I like my coffee!
Freespirit64
Level 8
May 19, 2018
4
You are just greedy !
@VAL3941 she may be worth her greed!
@GipsyOfNewSpain
Certainly looks like it ? She is gorgeous!
@VAL3941 awww! You guys...lol
@Freespirit64
Wish I lived close to you sweetness ?
@VAL3941 The story of my life!
@Freespirit64
You mean our lives ?
@VAL3941 Yes...lol
@Freespirit64
You never know, things could change when you least expect it too ?
I agree with this and it goes both ways for men and women.
ballou
Level 8
May 19, 2018
6
totally agree with that
I've never considered myself the 'romantic' type, but I like to do things for people and sometimes appreciate it when someone does something for me. I really don't want the last piece of cake though.
AstralSmoke
Level 8
May 19, 2018
4
I make a mean pecan pie. Hell with cake. ?
@poetdi56 My kind of girl.
True romance in this.... its nicely put and I actually do all these things plus I clown around with her too. We watched the royal wedding at 4 something this more. I was born in the UK. Anyway I said hmmm... now the honey moon sex! I looked at her and said. Hey baby... let's go tear up the bed. I got another laugh...
BucketlistBob
Level 8
May 19, 2018
2
They forgot to include the really important stuff like wash the dishes, clean the bathroom, go grocery shopping, or cook a meal without being asked to......those are my turn ons.
patchoullijulie
Level 8
May 19, 2018
4
Those are just chores. Is there such a thing as a romantic chore?
@AstralSmoke Is the Pope Catholic???? Romantic chores are my favorite chores. In my world flowers, chocolates and I love you's are no match for a clean bathroom, floor, dishes and a home cooked meal. Of course this may be a generational thing.
@patchoullijulie I guess I'd have to say no about the pope then. I can't think of any romantic chores that I do, although I do like having a clean bathroom, floors, dishes, and a homecooked meal. I believe we are of the same generation unless of course, they've shortened the term limits.
@moonmaid IKR?
@moonmaid, @AstralSmoke lol ...your right we are of the same generation but didn't you yourself say that you didn't know that there was such a thing as a romantic chore? I think that is mostly generational. My point being is that in our generation it was, generally speaking, accepted that the woman would do all the chores (for whatever reasons) so after a life time of taking care of such things, as a woman, I really appreciate them being done by someone else. If there is willing help from a partner then they can be considered romantic gestures....at least thats how I see them because it makes me want to just hug and kiss the life out of someone who helps in that way. 
@patchoullijulie Wow, we should move in together. I love hugs and kisses. I was raised in a fairly large family and we all had our own chores to do. And since I'm a tad bit older now, I have a lot of chores. I do them just to get them done. No romantic twists for me. But I agree, it's very nice to have someone to share the chores. Makes life more enjoyable for sure.
@AstralSmoke Ah so that is why you are able to take care of yourself. I was the eldest and was put in charge of everything and everyone ugh! That turned me into a control freak eeeek and now I am rebelling. Not that I'm bitter or anything! But your right sharing being the operative word. And who doesn't love hugs and kisses right?
@AstralSmoke I think what makes a chore romantic is doing said chore without being asked. For example, if a partner is having a busy or stressed day, and the other partner puts in a load of laundry or stops for wine on the way home - bingo!
@poetdi56 OK, I got it. I don't think of that as being romantic, but perhaps it is. I can still appreciate it. I would categorize those things under helpful, thoughtful, compassionate, etc. I do these things for friends and family with no intention of coming across as romantic.
@poetdi56 Thanks...that was actually what I was trying to say. 
@AstralSmoke What poetdi56 said! She is much better with words than I am.
@patchoullijulie Maybe we just have a different understanding (interpretation) of what romantic is. I can live with that. I always do chores without being asked 
I think I do. I am a romantic, in more ways than one. I think my father or an uncle once told me "Treat women the way you want your father treat your mother".
GipsyOfNewSpain
Level 9
May 19, 2018
5
I don't know if I agree with all of that...
Romance means different things to different people. This seems a dated and very narrow pandering to gender stereotypes and old fashioned tropes.
'Romance' is a way of relating to the world, life and the universe.
Ellatynemouth
Level 8
May 19, 2018
3
Sweet but sappy. To me, romance is sharing the dream, grown-up eroticism and civil activism are more our style.
Don't ever let my ex hear you saying things like this, she would string you up by the short and curlies, she was only interested in the big extravagant gestures, wanted to receive what she wanted and give what she wanted to give whether you like it or not.
Harry_Worth
Level 4
May 19, 2018
3
Men are the true romantics. Unfortunately we have bought into the Disney fairytales we were brought up watching, and only when/if we ever grow out of this: we can start to lead a more fulfilling and less emotionally challenging life.
A statement I once read (by who, I can’t remember):”You know that warm fuzzy feeling you get when you think you’ve met the woman of your dreams. That’s your common sense leaving your body.”
KenG
Level 6
May 19, 2018
2
KenG:
I found the quote:
“They say that when you meet someone and feel like it’s love at first sight, [you should] run in the other direction. All that’s happened is that your dysfunction has meshed with their dysfunction. Your wounded inner child has recognised their wounded inner child, both hoping to be healed by the same fire that burned them.”
I made plenty women cry with what I write (not intentional)... countless of times a woman say to me I never had someone write me a poem or a song. To me all women should be at some point a muse. To her is romantic, to me is... "can't explain, is what I do, comes from within, I don't need to see like romance but a part of me inside communicate with the ladies like that and I won't stop it, because is what I do". Something I wrote cost me a divorce of a 19 years marriage. And no regret for writing it or for not be able to explain the real meaning of the poem because it would had hurt her more. So I accepted her verdict. Is What I Do. But when you are my muse, you become eternal as long I am alive and you will remember with a smile after I am gone that you inspired me, even those I never met in person because that thing inside of me can be moved to act even from far away. You could be that powerful of an inspiration. Romance or no romance.
GipsyOfNewSpain
Level 9
May 19, 2018
1
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