Intelligence alone is not enough to turn me on but lack of intelligence definitely turns me off!
Well said!
The whole reason I was attracted to this site was the increased likelihood of encountering women with whom to carry on interesting exchanges of ideas and from whom one can learn. The only disappointment is that so many are too far away to easily meet in person for authentic contact. Please don't misinterpret my use of authentic...
There's nothing wrong with authentic contact. We wouldn't be here otherwise.
Most definitely a sapiophile. One of the main reasons I am single to be honest.
I will jest and carry on, play down my positive attributes and exaggerate the negatives.
Occasionally someone will see through this but then things go sour because I get categorised as intellectual, and am often called an intellectual snob which is not the case. I am just more attracted to intelligent ladies.
I know what you mean, it helps a relationship to be able to communicate intelligently on a range of topics. I think more importantly to me is someone who enjoys the conversations whether they are super intelligent isn’t my concern as much as they are an enjoyable conversationalist and those do not always go hand in hand.
I just joined the group to find new people to be obnoxious with. Facebook has gotten full of very low I.Q. Trump supporters, many I went to school with. They were celebrating the new tax bill, I had to find a new venue. The level of discourse is a bit higher here, the people more down to earth and the subjects go from nerdy to inane to non-linear physics. A good mix I think. As for physical attractiveness, I have to go on a person-by-person basis-it's not like I look like George Clooney.
I seem to be in this category, but I'm not sure it identifies me, or that I identify with the label. It's only one facet.
Same here.
I know that I am when it comes to on-line dating. If I'm reading a woman's profile, and if there are repeated spelling errors, if she says "your" instead of "you're", and especially if she uses the word "alot", then I will move on to the next profile.
i use alot just to piss you scrabble heads off
Yes. I'm attracted to skeptics, freethinkers and critical thinkers. Faith-based sheeple are a turn off but they make up the vast majority. In every atheist or evidence based social group I have joined, the men clearly out number the women.
Probably because all the women are busy cooking dinner.
@Ellatynemouth : They should do what I do. I cook maybe once a week, freeze half and eat the rest over a the next few days.
I'm quite suspicious of sapiophiles.
I once began chatting to one online. He was a sapiophile apparently. The communication continued for a few weeks and to cut a long story short - he preferred intelligent women under 30 who had long legs and blond hair.
You dodged a bullet ?
sapio- whatever ,another fancy shamncy term for being diffident , non committed, intellectually nowhere...
Lovely. I'm sure sapiophiles can be assholes too...
@musicman2803 : Equating intellect with elitism, being difficult and fancy shcmancy is a Trumpy thing now isn't it?
The little red heart thingy says we're 100% match. So that's all you need to know! Ha ha ha. Boy if it were that simple
Yeah, it’s not!
I'm pretty sure that wouldn't be me. ☺
Hahahaha
Intelligence is definitely an aspect of attraction for me but isn't the whole story.
I like the female form, the hourglass shape I have seen in biology booksmy whole life. I need that too.
You need biology books?
@Ellatynemouth you betcha! ?
Yep. And there are a lot of others on here, too.
It was that way with my wife, smart (ok, brilliant), funny, cute. I miss the stimulation more than anything else. I wish I could find that again, but I don't hold out much hope.
What is a sapiophile?
noun. one who is attracted to intelligent people. A person who finds intelligence attractive. from Latin sapio - wise, sensible, discerning - and Greek -phile - loving - "I am 'attracted to intelligence' therefore I am a sapiophile." And a sapiosexual is one who finds intelligence to be the most sexually attractive attribute in another.
In Greek (classical Greek), there were at least 3 words that could be translated as “love”: “philia”, “agape” and “eros”. Then, using “philia” instead of “eros”? “Philia” was commonly used to refer to love among relatives and friends. Eros was the “love” you can find between man-woman or man-man (In classical Greece, homosexuality was the expression of the perfect love.). Therefore, maybe the right word should be something like “erosopher”.
BTW: I myself believe intelligence and knowledge are very sex appealing in a woman.