We are all attracted to who we are attracted to. I have never been able to control who l am attracted to. It is what it is. It is that simple.

Sounds reasonable to me.

Because genetics has programmed us to be drawn to attractiveness. Out in the world though - there are so many variables. Then it boils down to how you're relating to someone. Friends ?, co-workers?, casual acquaintances ? , lots of leeway there.

Looking for a mate and potential lover ? Most likely one's choices will be more discerning. Then there needs to be an attraction of some sort - and we each respond to very different cues, which often have nothing to do with "physical beauty " , as defined by society standards anyway .

I agree totally,
sadly I cannot find people in the physical world who follow though on these ideals.

I think some women feel pressured to look perfect by other women. For years, our role models have been magazine models and "how to please a man" and sexy older women like Cher and Madonna. I don't think it's reasonable as we get into our 50's and beyond, to try to look like we're thirty. Sure, we can do things to look better, and I'm not against a nip-tuck, but if your face looks 30 and your body looks 70, how is that reality? I just want to be my best, for myself, not to please anyone else!

I don't know the answer to that myself...When I became widowed, I thought being alone would be ok at my age, but discovered how alone "alone" really is, guess I had forgotten, been a long time since I have bached it.... I tried a dating site & was feeling pretty much on the outside looking in for the most part... I am 62, I don't want to party all night, or jet set all over the Caribbean...I cannot take off & hike 10 miles anymore, either...Don't want to go on wine tasting tours, not the least bit interested in sports of any kind, & cigars are certainly not my thing...I did strike up a conversation with a girl, but when she was told I don't text, never heard from her again... I didn't realize texting was a prerequisite for dating...I like it when a woman lets her true hair color come thru,it is a badge of courage & rightfully earned... beauty is in the eye of the beholder, just like the old saying... I think mature women my age are just as sexy as the young ones, & I sure have a lot more in common with them...& the ones my age make goodies in the oven, which is a big plus as far as I am concerned....LOL...

Well if you live in the south, that reallu eliminates all the meth users. hahaha