Phermones

I find intelligence very attractive, or more exactly, I find incurious people to be a turn-off.

I had an opportunity to date a woman once who was not the brightest light on the porch, and in some ways I wish I had done so, because she was exceedingly sweet and kind and I'm sure she would have been very low maintenance. Rather than a shared understanding of esoteric aspects of life we might have shared emotional connection and sexual intimacy unencumbered by a lot of complicated feelings and requirements. A mutual admiration society over each other's intellect can be somewhat overrated.

But ... at this point I'll never know and I would not be willing to test that theory even if the opportunity presented itself.

Being good at pattern recognition, knowledge retention, and problem-solving (all things IQ reflects) doesn't inherently make someone mentally stimulating or a good mate.

If they know stuff I don't know (and I know stuff they don't) and are good at explaining (and listening) and like learning new stuff, then that makes them mentally stimulating.

If they have social intelligence--the ability to read people, emote appropriately and genuinely in response, can communicate well, aren't afraid to be nurturing and generous, etc., that makes them a good mate.

Sex.

How are you evaluating your mates IQs? IQ is only a part of intelligence, and intelligence is only part of what makes a person. People with very high IQs are not common so chances are that most of them are with people less intelligent than they are.

I don't do an IQ test but I do find a great mind attractive but I also find a nice pair of jugs attractive.

Sexual attraction, duh.

"Ghostbusters" and Chris Hemsworth's hilarious character as the dumb hunk receptionist "Kevin" comes to mind.

Reminds me of a joke running around the internet years ago. It's a resume where some guy is asking for a job as receptionist. He messes up the grammar, says he can't type or spell, but he says that "people seem to like me."

Included is a photo of this hunk in cut-off jean shorts and open surfing shirt.

The return answer says, "Don't worry about it-there's spell check. See you tomorrow!

This question begs another question: How quickly do you think you can accurately judge another's intellectual capabilities?
"Did you know that Einstein couldn't tie his own shoe laces?" -Lou Reed
Those who regard themselves as very superior often lack basic common sense, and can't even find the gas cap on their car, much less jumper cables, should the need arises.
("I hire people to do that stuff." ). Of course you do. Einstein.

I tend not to favor bigotry of any kind, and I consider the measuring of (and emphasis on) intelligence or IQ to be a particularly acute form of bigotry.

Sometimes a person might have a lower IQ, but they are kind and have street smarts. I could see myself dating someone like that.

I prefer to date someone similar to me, who can keep me intellectually stimulated (then the other parts follow). I can see how someone who is intelligent but insecure might seek someone with less intellectual leanings.

Oh, that explains a lot to me about my love life. Thank you.

I am clearly sapiosexual, but it is not my highest priority, kindness and honesty are well before intelligence.
A sapiosexual isn't necessarily intelligent themselves, I know some ladies of average intelligence who go weak at the knees for brains.

I just struggle when I have to explain every other word to someone or any literary references to them. If they return the favour with, "Did you watch?...". I instantly turn off.

Sapiosexuals think they are superior to others, just shows their true selves ?