Hello thank you. It drives me nuts. I've even made sure to comment and tip say in a drive thru(Burger King once no less! LOL) over this very issue. I also freaking HATE being called "Miss". Uhm- F U! I"m not a "miss" hello! It was so rife in my area felt compelled to look up the protocol for proper use of "Miss" vs "Ma'am" and sure enough there is one and it makes total sense.

Working for years in the restaurant industry, I was given the obligatory thanks a thousand times a day. It"s so automatic, often people forget they've said it the moment it leaves their mouth. I became adept at reading the customer to determine the best reply based on the sincerity of the 'thanks.' I've also used "of course" and "you bet." Being polite & having good manners are conventions of an older society. True appreciation is demonstrated best with actions & words. I received the worst tips from guests who thanked me profusely and some of the best from people who barely acknowledged my presence.

The concept of manners has changed a lot since I was young (back when dinosaurs still roamed the planet). It is to be expected that the language surrounding them would also change.

my pleasure? My pleasure? ...in response to thanking someone for doing something? Seems the same, to me as "no problem." Much ado about nothing?

Sometimes they are Not welcomed and is Not a pleasure but it Was Not a problem.

After someone does a favor for you, the polite thing to do is not get in a tizzy about what platitude they use afterwards

I think it's a regional or generational thing. It's like a friend from the U.S. Midwest who would always say "you bet" or another from the West Coast who would always say "for sure."

Would your rather it be a problem? LOL! I would take it. I had family members that would help but then give me a lecture about biting off more than I could chew or how not to screw something up enough to need help. I'd rather take the "no problem" from help.

I think it's fine.

The spirit is the same, "you owe me no debt of gratitude" is the message in all.

It seems kind of cranky to thank someone and then feel aggrieved at their manner of responding.

What’s impolite about no problem/de nada/it was nothing? Like dellik said it’s a bit more modest of a response if anything.

Ugh, who knows? I've also noticed "yep" has become the stand-in for "yes". I miss proper English.

Generational thing.

‘No problem’, coming from a millennial’s mouth, within the context of helping someone – whether it be holding a door open/picking up something someone may have dropped/etc. – and, naturally, being thanked for it, implies that the kind gesture was indeed, not a problem, that it was just the thing to do, that they were happy to help and that no thanks was really necessary.

While a Baby Boomer’s ‘You’re welcome’ in contrast, says something miles different, it actually highlights the fact that the person went out of their way to help someone; almost brings attention to it in a way, saying 'Yeah, I helped you, I did you this favor I accept your thanks.’ which, malicious intent or not, is strikingly different than the millennial downplay of their act of kindness for the sake of helping someone.

Because I want to? I do very little in hopes of thanks, or even appreciation. I do things for others because it’s what I want to do and thanks are nice...but not expected.
I do have a slight scorn for certain social platitudes, small talk, and political correctness. My childhood was colored by my narcissistic mother’s concern with ‘appearances’. It did affect me!

Seems courtesy isn’t required, recognized, seldom appreciated.
Please and thank you... so easy... does it matter?... to some of us it does, I like it.

does it really matter?

In Spain, the proper response to "Gracias" is "de Nada"....just a custom

because not all cultures are polite like that.