@Jc007 Ok, I was just asking because I thought your original posting said something about most women having children or are divorced. Not sure if I misread it or you edited it.

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First off she looks like me. That should be enough right there. She still beats me up too.

@Jc007 Maybe you need a dog.

@Jc007 Sorry to hear that. Have you thought of perhaps getting a life coach? They may be able to help or at least say where you go wrong.

I keep wondering who came up with concept of ," Women don't like nice men came from ." Being nice is , " NOT , " the problem . Problem areas are : Not taking care of yourself ( poor hygiene ) . Not taking care of yourself ( Can't or won't support yourself ) . Not taking care of yourself ( can't handle your finances ) . Can't take care of yourself ( problems with alcohol , drugs , smoking , ill health ) Can't take care of yourself (hanging with the wrong crowd ) . Can't take care of yourself ( still haven't cut the apron strings ) Not taking care of yourself ( have no ambition , not planning and working to a brighter future . The fact that you have a job is a good start . But you need to have an active plan for improving your situation .)

@Cast1es maam you make a great point. However, if I viewed things that way I would have women lining up down the road to talk to me. You are also thinking from your point of view which doesnt make you wrong either. I don't understand how women constantly find those men you mentioned. It's like they are attracted to them. That's why I will never feel sorry for a woman who claims there are no good men left. I believe they are just looking in the wrong place. It also hurts women's chances when they feel the guy has to approach them. It's nearly impossible for guys to approach every woman in the room casually. Sometimes the woman has to recognize a good man and approach him or at least be in his line of sight to be noticed. You know us men. We have to practically get slapped in the face to realize what is going on. We don't watch romance movies to know all the different body languages of a woman. Perhaps there is money in teaching men that. Lol

YES, finding a reason to 'live' is REALLY important. My ex-husband had no extra-curricular interests, male friends, hobbies, etc. He worked and then came home expecting sex and went to sleep afterwards. That got really OLD! We did go out to the movies and to eat as an 'activity,' but that was all, and that's just freaking... Sigh. I want a man that has a life, that has interests, that pursues those interests, that has friends of his own, that will freaking wear shorts when the situation calls for it, that is happy with himself, and grooms himself -clean hands and toenails. I further want a man that can laugh at himself. I cannot stand thin-skin people of either gender who cannot take a self-deprecating joke. I LOVE to laugh! A man doesn't have to be a comedian, but we can go to a stand-up show and laugh. So, John, find things that you might want to do and find people to do it with, she just might be in that crowd.

@Georgy303, geez, I wish you were 20 yrs older and lived in So Cal, you've got good words, and I like your thinking.

@Condor5 yeah. That's a mature woman for you. Lol

@Condor5 Thank you gentelmen.

@Condor5, @Jc007 I do hope you find her. But first have fun with yourself. Good luck.

@Georgy303 well, I'm not exactly sure what you mean by "have fun with yourself," but I'll assume it's positive?