Happened too many times but why? What for and what purpose?
I've had a couple of "boomerangs" in my life. They arrived after a break up or just prior to taking next move to deeper commitment with their SO.
So guys do this too.
I'm not much one for digging up skeletons or sniffing around to check the pulse of an exes current relationship like some out there are. Scorched earth here.
This is a Hmmmm for me. My wife is alive, but I email with on of my HS gf on a regular basis. We had a discussion once about her mom making her break up with me and I thought her of the one who got away. But she is still a major prude and it wouldn't work.
But, I think she is the only one I'd be interested in seeing. Other than my AP.
A year after my husband passed away. My high school sweet heart came across my mom at the grocery store. My mom gave him my number. He was still hot and sexy.
He had a great career and had a lot to offer.
I liked the idea of ending back together.
The sparks from before weren't there for me.
Too many conmen out there waiting to fleece the recent widow!
Like men don't do this too? There is comfort in familiarity.
Familiarity... They know what they are getting... I remember early on my relationships I told them... "After me, any other man in your life will seems better than what you think of them now."
Security. If they were friends too-seek out old friend.
For the same reason men do, I would imagine. You have already been there. You may already have a foot in the door, and that beginning discomfort feeling of attempting something new isn't as strong.
You know exactly what to expect. There is tremendous power in that--particularlt when one is vulnerable.
likeordering your favorite off the menu instead of trying something new: you're hungry and not feeling particularly adventurous; you don't want to take a risk of getting something you don't like or even worse might make you sick.
Maybe you know old standby is not going to cut it for the rest of your life, but for right now, it does the job.