How important is it to people to have political compatibility? like, if youre a liberal, would you consider dating someone who is more conservative & vice versa?
as an atheist, would you consider dating someone with religious belief?
personally neither of these things really matter to me, as long as we're both aware of our differences.
For me, it’s not about Politics, it’s about the values that drive the beliefs. So much of the conservative platform seems to lack empathy. The belief system is based on rules and authority and punishment and there is a lack of recognition of different perspectives and experiences and opportunities. I don’t know if I could be compatible with somehow who believes in god. But they would have to believe foremost in science and evidence and definitely not be into organized religion.
Me: liberal/progressive atheist
Him: conservative "Christian"
Respect? Check.
Acceptance? Check.
Communication? Che--well...
Values? Terribly mismatched. "Irreconcilable differences", you might say.
We are no longer together.
(There's not going to be a "next time", so it doesn't matter what I learned. I don't have the stomach for that song and dance anymore.)
Yes! We can use labels. But what it really comes down to are values.
There should always be a next time. Never let failure have the last say.
If someone is radical or evangelical about their faith I'm not going to include them in my life. If they are more lukewarm I'd at least get to know them. I would not date someone whose political ideology is terribly different than my own. If they voted for Drumpf and don't regret it, I would question their morals. If they are politically apathetic and can deal with my zeal it might be OK. However, i can see where they would not fit in my world well. They'd have more in common with my ex, and I just can't see that as a good thing.
fair enough
I'm liberal, but that doesn't mean I'm attracted to ever liberal person. I've had conservative girlfriends, even religious, but not fervently religious.
Of course, many of today's conservative's have gone off the rails. I don't care how good looking you are or how nice you may be, but if you believe Obama was secretly born in Kenya and climate change is a hoax created by the Chinese, there is no way I could maintain a relationship let alone a close friendship.
Very important, no, and no...
I couldn't date anyone who was socially conservative. If they were fiscally conservative and socially liberal, maybe. Probably not.
Same for someone religious. If it's a cultural identity to preserve important family relationships, maybe. If it is something they really believe and it's important to them, no.
To me, these are differences in fundamental beliefs and values. Someone who is socially conservative is likely to be judgemental and prejudiced. Someone who really believes and follows an organized religion either cannot think independently and / or is lacking intelligence.
NO and NO.
I also wouldn't date anyone who liked to eat junk food or red meat, liked to hunt, golf, loaf in the front of the TV, or who does urban or oil development.
I wouldn't date anyone who watched Fox News, was a Conservative, was religious (unless they were indifferent to it), never traveled out of the US, was a Republican, lived with his mother or ex wife, or allowed them to run his life.
I wouldn't date anyone who had never had children, or who still had children at home. I wouldn't date someone who let a large dog have the run of his house. Or who had cats.
I wouldn't date someone of another ethnicity, since few, if any, ethnicities treat women as equals, and many/most will hit on a Caucasian woman in hopes of bettering their social status..
So, really, political views are just one of my sticking points.
Most guys I've dated (including my ex-husband) were socially liberal and atheist or agnostic. I just tend to be attracted to people who have that political and religious orientation. If I met someone who was a political conservative, I would have a hard time with that. Someone who was religious, if they didn't hassle me about it, I would be OK with. I view religion as a personal thing, whereas politics is so often about making laws to force other people to behave as one would like rather than what the person does naturally. I recognize the need for some laws (I'm sure there are a few outliers who think murder is okay) but overall I'm not big on controlling people.
I am a proud Persian leaning towards Zoroastrian philosophy, 18 months ago I met a north african girl whom at first seemed quite secular, and we hit it off. As the relationship developed I noticed she was leaning towards Arab nationalism and Sunni muslim bias! At that point I should have realised relationship was doomed and saved myself a lot of grief!
you win sir. lol
I would and I did, but the relationship always had problems. I just viewed the world differently and she was always quite conservative at heart. With that came a lot of ugly realizations about her jealousy and about my desire to maintain my friendships and relationships. As much as we cared for each other, it seemed like the rules of engagement were different. In the end she blamed my "damned liberalism". She also returned to church. I think it is critical that we have similar beliefs to build relationships on, we don’t change others. Or I could be completely wrong.
I tried dating not one, but TWO conservative christians, back to back.
Neither relationship worked out for more than a few months. Both were rock n rollers, the first the guitar player / lead singer in a band. The second, a fan.
While we had plenty to talk about OUTSIDE of politics, i knew neither could last.
Political wouldn't matter to me,religious would.
thats interesting. ive found most people see the politics to be more important than the religious aspect.
@Lovecraft Over here there is very little difference between our political parties, we have Twiddle Dum and Twiddle Dee each has a sidekick, both of the major parties support the same things that I don't. ie increased population, coal mining and various other atrocities. I would rather date a girl who was politically opposed rather than one who watched sport or reality television.
It's becoming much more of challenge because of what’s happening to Conservatives at this point in history. It used to be we could disagree about things like economics, government oversight, the role of government in governing... but we’ve gone way past that. Now, it’s about those who deny science, claim all new sources but theirs are “fake news,” subscribe to paranoid-conspiracy theories, and cannot accept a non-white influence in America. There’s no way I could simply just “disagree” with those people. This is toxic and highly destructive (or is it highly destructive and toxic?). And all these call themselves “Christian.”
I think disagreements are healthy because they force us out of our own paradigm into a bigger paradigm... but there’s line... and reality is that line.
I am happier to be with someone who is socialist, than anything else my partner isnt particularly politicially minded but is humanitarian I don't think I could tolerate a partner with religious belief unless tehy never ever talked about it and that doesnt seem feasible. One of the problems I have with religious folk is that sooner or later they will start to proseletyse bringing in small anecdotes and its wearing - I'd far rather give them a wide berth - Its me that can't really handle it. .
If they could debate without name-calling and nastiness, I would think it was a turn-on! Intelligence is Sexy!
Political views are held because of one's values. My values are completely incompatible with those of political conservatives, so that is important to me. I regard religious beliefs as delusions, so I'm not going to go out with anyone who buys into them.
That's one of the things that matters to me. I'm pretty damn liberal though so...
I find it difficult to believe that two people with very different political beliefs could have a successful relationship. Religion? That is different, An atheist and a religious person can co-exist well if each grants the other the right to believe as he or she sees fit.