I get dizzy when I swing too much so I just let the kids get on the swing set. Oh! you mean the adult swapping lifestyle. I have never done it. I have a hard time dealing with one relationship at a time when I am in one, the last thing that I want to do is to complicate it by adding more people into it.

I like the idea that sex can be untethered from possessiveness. I looked into the scene in my area, once--briefly. (It's small, and--ahem--let's just say, mature.)

I find swinging and polyamory intellectually interesting, and had I lived in a (vastly) more populous area with well-populated scenes, I might have given it a go, just for experiment's sake--I'm like that. But not here. Too small, conservative, and gossipy here.

For all my "trysexual" bent, I'm not sure any of that stuff would be for me.

What consenting adults do, that does not harm any innocents, is none of my damned business. That said, I would never do it.

Do what you do.

As long as all are consenting, I think it is perfectly fine. So what that it is not the norm. Who cares. There are lots of people engaging in this throughout the country. Check out SDC (Swingers Dating Club).

It is pretty edgy. All the people I've known in the scene have had disastrous breakups, so my opinion is that because it goes against most people's sensibilities, they'd rather steer clear. My $0.02.

It's never been for me, but I'm all for anything goes between consenting adults.

I'm not a swinger, but I am usually in open relationships. From my understanding the difference between us is I don't care for casual sex.

If you at all into the kink/swinger lifestyle, it's worthwhile to join Fetlife. Awesome website for connecting people of similar interest you wouldn't otherwise find.

I see no problem with it. I have friends that are swingers. I've been in swinger relationships before, usually opting to swing with them. It's fun, exciting and when the bounds are properly established and adhered to, safe.

It's kind of funny seeing all these judgments being passed down from holier than thou atheists. The "I would never do that" crowd that thinks having 3 husbands or wives is not swinging. You easily spread your legs and give blow jobs to strangers or happily swap spit, lick vaginas and butt holes because you can tell by "knowing" them a week, after 3 dates or a month that just by looking at him or her they don't have an STD. He or she looks clean, takes showers, brushes their teeth so they can't have an STD. Right?
This website is inhabited 100% by people proudly proclaiming to have thrown off the stupid nonsensical teachings of Father Church but you cling on with both hands about the shame guilt and dogmatic naughtyness of "dirty"sex they taught you about.
Good job.

Seems like you would have to be very secure in yourself and your relationship or not give a damn at all either way, whatever works for you. I couldn't do it. Ive been invited a couple times but nope. I can't imagine sharing my girl. I don't think i could even have sex with a stranger. Thats just me though.

I couldn't do it, but if that's what makes y'all happy, go for it!

I'm ethically non-monogamous too, but on the polyamorous side of the street.

Sure..if you love it go for it..

Well, I am afraid I would de-friend you as well. I cannot see how the human condition is lifted up or improved in the least...with this life style. Your friends must, most llikely be people who have your same interest. If that suits all of you, then so be it. Sexual pleasure is wrapped up in so many other emotions that need to develop with time...this life style will not build your character and thus it must be stunted! Not to mention, it is not accepted as a norm in our society...so you will be going against the grain in your everyday life! Now, I am not a conformist, but I do know something about my human sexual nature and development of other aspects of my nature and swinging from 'sexual partners with my sexual partner'...would do nothing toward my overall mental, emotional and physical health! It will be an errosion from the inside...out! Same as if your daily diet was only ice cream!

not for me, but you people do what you want.

Most everyone I knew that was in the lifestyle ended up divorced, separated, or just don't talk to each other any more.

I don't judge. And I have no personal moral objections. Hell - I'm sure it can be titillating. I say if it works for you - ok. But I have always questioned how swingers nowadays, can remain disease free indefinitely. ...

If long time partners can sometimes be surprised to find they've been exposed to some "souvenir" by their roaming lover - how can you possibly know the sexual history of all those you are with, when many times they're not even sure, and it may take months to find out ?

One thing is for sure: it takes a lot of intelligence to navigate the traps inherent in a swinger lifestyle to make it successful...but so does existing in a multi--level bureaucracy or any other competitive venture. I suppose the odds are slightly against the swingers because its all about 'the sex'. I never had the opportunity to try the organized swinger lifestyle because no one I was involved with would play. But I did swap my girl with my best friend and her best friend with me in a casual setting in '74 and it turned out ok, though it never happened again. It takes a special kind of balls & ovaries to even bring up the subject for the first time!

A lot of people have the wrong idea about swinging in the first place. There are several levels ranging from flirting to separate rooms.

At the end of the day if you and your partner communicate and discuss everything before hand it can be a lot of fun. Especially when the male and female half are both into women.

Judge it all you want but it’s better than lying to youreselves about just wanting to be with (sexually) one person for the rest of your life.

scared of what?

I can't say that I have an opinion about other people who engage in the swinger lifestyle, because I am polyamorous so I definitely can't judge. Sometimes that meant I have had sex with others while in a committed relationship with a primary partner.

But for me it wasn't about sex.

In fact, some of my best relationships have had a lot of emotional intimacy but the physical expression was limited to cuddles, backrubs, etc.

I do tend to date poly men these days, simply because while I love meeting new people, and becoming close, if they are already in a relationship, it doesn't have to be about sex because they have that need met already. But they also don't get into trouble for seeing me either.

My ex-husband was into it. I was not. However, he threatened to commit suicide if I didn't go along with it. I told him I'd do it one time, and that was it. The first time was fine. I enjoyed myself. But notice that I said 'first'. My ex insisted that it happen again and again. My ex wanted MFM threesomes. The second time, things went bad, I the man raped me. That didn't end things.I said no every time, but my ex refused to accept my no, and kept inviting men over to our home. The best of the bad situations was when he invited a couple over. My ex had sex with her, but when I asked the man to put on a condom, he'd go soft. I refused to do anything without a condom, so he slept with his girlfriend instead of me. That was fine by me. I went upstairs to bed and left them to it.

All of this was happening with a toddler in the house. I left my ex because I was afraid that something would happen to my son, that one of the men he'd been inviting over would take an interest in my baby and do something to him.

Sloppy seconds is not on my priority list!