High drama. Some people employ this attention getting tactic to continually put a partner through the paces of reassuring and supporting and proving love over and over and over again. It's counterproductive because it's so emotionally fatiguing on the partner trying to be supportive. After a while you just have to declare you've had enough for the sake of your own sanity. The fact that she doesn't want to get help or go through channels to seek justice may indicate that her story is either untrue or at least over-embellished. You could expect this kind of drama or something similar throughout the relationship. It was wise to make an exit.

Having struggled with many of the same issues she told you she was, I would say it all sounds legit. I know it sounds really crazy, but when you've been abused, getting help can be terrifying. Taking responsibility for yourself and fixing your own problems can seem out of your reach, even when there are several simple solutions available to you. Sadly, it's really difficult to get through to people who are in that state and often it's best to let them go until they are able to take responsibility so that you don't get sucked into the drama. I hope she finds healing someday. And I hope things work out for you as well.

Try, try again. It's too bad it didn't work out for you two, but if we don't take care of our own emotional and physical self first, we can't take care of others. She needs to learn that, too. Good luck and have fun in the dating pool.

Paul, it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Be thankful and move on, my man. I drop this drama quick anymore. Being single is not all bad. It'll be more than ok!

That is very sad for her. And she needs professional help. You did the right thing. I am sorry. That must be very hard. But truly, you can not help her.

I have met many people like this. Their lives are a constant barrage of abuse, bad luck, persecution and disappointments. But at what point in your life do you cease being a victim and become a volunteer?

I've had insurance before that didn't cover mental health, specifically, the services I really needed the most. The USA doesn't take mental health seriously. So that can happen. But idk about the rest... She might be a train wreck about everything else, it's hard to say.

What a nightmare experience! I’m happy you were able to find the strength and resolve to leave.

Her issues are extreme and recurrent. Unfortunately, no one can help her but herself, though it sounds like that’s not gonna happen ... at least anytime soon.

Wellcome back to my kingdom.

She sounds like a really troubled person and that can certainly strain relationship.

Dealing with someone else's low self esteem is a lonely place to be. I'm sorry it worked out like that for you. I hope you can move forward. Hang in there chief.

Good decision, man, she seems to have troubles surrounding her wherever she goes, and that's a bad sign. I'm sorry that you still love her because that makes it more difficult but you can do better. Good luck!

You sound like a very kind and compassionate person. It sure sounds like you did what you could to encourage her to get the help she needs. I hope she does eventually.

Best of luck to you, you seem like a keeper.

So sad, you’ll definitely find someone, the one who’s meant for you

"not sure she loves herself ?" Clearly she does not. Sounds like layer upon layer of issues that were birthed way before she met you. While I understand falling for a screwed up one (having done it), she sounds like a handful of trouble. I retired from "fixing" people long ago. The only good "fixer-uppers" are houses !

Best to ya !

You cannot fix "that broken". Find someone who has something to contribute! When yourpredominate state is worry/bolstering, it is not a relationship other than caretaker÷patient.

If nothing else she can call 211 for help - they can put people in touch with no or low cost local resources.

Sorry this didn't work out for you.

Good thing you got out she sounds delusional or psychotic

Yes, and were did all your concern, time, and money go?

Most women always state men are the Evil ones who take advantage of poor little women!

I have found there are so many women scammers, frauds, fakes, and trolls!

I get sick of women preying on mem and never get what they deserve, the earned label of Predator!

They offer you so much, then when they get everything that they can, goodby!

The sad part we never see it coming!

I have lived this a few times, so do not tell how stupid or naive, at the time it seemed to be the right thing to do to help and aid another!!!

What a joke on me!!!

I'm sure you will find someone.

Sometimes you can't save a drowning person because they don't seem to even want to try to survive or just don't have it in them to survive any longer. Sounds like you did as much as possible for her. Time to save yourself and not let her pull you under. Like, LL, I am curious if it's someone from this site, so I can stay clear of her myself.

Drama queen. Some people thrive on drama and conflict and she sounds like one of them.

Society and media and the CJS and even toxic family/religions have women blaming ourselves for our own victimization. It is a type of internalized misogyny. It is also sometimes a coping mechanism in which a victim convinces themselves if they just do A-Z right next time or avoid certain things they will never be a victim again! It is a way to try and reclaim control however, as seen by your ex, has toxic effects for those that are re-victimized. Hopefully she eventually seeks out the help she needs. Poor lady

Thank you! You just pointed out a whole bunch of reasons why I should be happy I am by myself. Not that I needed reassurance, all I have to do is hang around with many of my married friends for a time and it makes me appreciate it already! Like my cousin and his wife who were here Saturday night and I went up to see the new bathroom I had done upstairs, and she proceeded to tell me how I had chosen the wrong paint colors and should repaint it immediately! I told her that is at least one reason I am not married, I am no longer always wrong, no matter what I do! LOL And I don't have to remodel my house (as they do) every six months because the tile and colors or decor are not trendy! SMH Learn to enjoy spending time by yourself Paul, you may just get to appreciate it at some point. I have been for almost 15 years.

You made the right choice