I think with your high sex drive you should just stop counting on men satisfying you. Just do it yourself and you will not have to depend on anybody else. Not only will you not have to worry about men anymore but you will have more time for hiking and all the other things in life that you do enjoy.

Yet another reason I have decided that I'm done with dating.
If men aren't going to deal with their own ED issues, why should I?

It's not the same as penis size. That cannot be helped.
ED is treatable for most men.
If they aren't going to bother taking care of their own problems themselves,
neither will I.
I am done.
I can take care of myself.

I am SO done with all the bullshit related to dating.
It's not worth it to me.

Historically, men are much less likely to go to doctors then women. That right there is a problem. ED is a common problem for older men as is vaginal dryness for women as they age. The hope would be that by the time you are ready to be physically intimate you would be comfortable enough having that conversation. Obviously not a question I would ask right off the bat, and some people are private about health issues. And truly, men could just take the pill and not say anything at all.

Thanks for the insight and the straight talk. In my experience men and women don't talk about sex and parents don't talk honestly about sex. Men for the most part grow up ignorant of the fact that women like good sex. An import factor mentioned was about respect. Little boys need to be taught to respect little girls. Life is like a box of chocolates, Men haven't yet earned that it is better to undo the ribbon first.

I hope you have a disclosure agreement to show men before they date you. Some people still maintain a semblance of privacy.

You could equally ask if ED is a problem before the clothes come off. I have, since ED was a problem in my marriage. Maybe he is embarrassed and it would be easier for him if you took the first step.

I remember something that happened on the other end, with birth control when I was young. I used a diaphragm and it was embarrassing to bring it out with a new partner. My doctor had advised me to put it in before dinner, but I didn't know it was going to happen. I awkwardly went into the bathroom to put in in. Afterwards we talked about it and he helped to make sure that we were using birth control every time.

These are things that involve both of you.

VIAGRA REALLY DOES WORK! It's THE BEST THING EVER CREATED FOR MEN!

Believe me, I know!

One of my exes had ED. After taking Viagra, we were hanging off chandeliers, doing it on kitchen counters, rooftops, you name it! Mmm.. WOW!

I can't stand when men think it's embarrassing to take Viagra. If you're trying EVERYTHING to please your partner, much respect to you.

It is a complete waste of my time and a major turn-off when men who effin KNOW they have an ED issue choose not to do anything about it!! It's okay. We will love you more for it. I promise you!

Viagra is one happy pill you want to take.

Thanks, Viagra!❤

I'm sure that I might have one of the top urologists in the hemisphere. He saved my sex life, and that was starting about 13 years ago. But to get to the point, about 8 years ago, he advised me to start using a half-dose of Cialis daily, which I've done faithfully. But a user should know, all Cialis (and Viagra) do for you is "increase blood flow to the urogenital area." What they WON'T do is make you have an erection. It takes both sexual arousal AND blood flow.

In my case, I've had sex with three women during the past decade. I had trouble off and on keeping it up with two of them. (They have since faded into history.) The third is my S.O. and we've have sex like a couple of teenagers for nearly ten years.. So, there's a lot of "chemistry" to my sex life--in addition to healthy blood flow.

PS: Here's a side note to men: nature plays a cruel joke on us guys such that the penis begins to shrink during the fifties and sixties. Apparently, that's largely due to diminished blood flow. But voila! The daily dose of Cialis reverses that trend. I don't want to get graphic here, but my S.O. seems quite happy about that.

Although it could be awkward, maybe this needs to be part of the conversation before clothing ever comes off. It might save everyone some efforts and frustration.

my alltime best BF had ED - he was 68 when we met. i did not care because i was gone on that man - as i pointed out, if i'm going to call myself bisexual it should not be that big a deal. he wanted to 'do' me with his hands, but i insisted on lining up our chakras. nonetheless, as we grew closer, he did get hard-ish. but more to the point, he was a wizard in bed, understood energy - chi - soooo intuitive and aware.
bottom line - good sex is about raising energy.

Honesty all around in advance would be good before getting into a scenario where intimacy might take place. Sexual disease possibilities, health protection options, possible erectile problems and solutions, vaginal dryness and solutions, what to expect, likes, dislikes, turn ons, turn offs, etc.

It's an equal partner activity. Assuming one's partner will solve all these possible issues without a heads up and a helpful discussion is thoughtless and demeaning.

If I decide to become sexually active again, I appreciate the idea of having this discussion in advance. I guess the solution is to ask questions before getting too close to an intimate situation. Thanks for posting.

I have ED and have the meds. I try to discuss it when I have a partner. It can be sexy for her to tell me I need to go take it and get ready for our evening

One cause of erectile dysfunction is poor circulation, same as heart disease. Best cure, plant-based whole-food diet. I had a heart attack, now my arteries and veins are clear of plaque. An angiogram proved it, and I do have erections, even now writing this reply. It doesn't take much.

Sildenafil 100 milligrams. It works remarkably well. Although I haven't had the opportunity to try it with a partner, I thought it would be wise for me to take it for a test drive. (I haven't had a partner since 2002).

It makes my penis very sensitive to touch, like it was in my 20s. It's quite a different experience - rather than being systemically aroused (no heavy breathing or mental fixation) I just get an erection. There would probably be more arousal if there was a woman in the room, but there's just me.

And the erection is very durable. It lasts longer than a half hour even with continual stimulation, and I often just get tired of "working" it before I "finish". I'm certain that it would be really enjoyable for a partner if I could find one.

So, you guys who are fortunate enough to attract women like @LiterateHiker, do it for your partner. Swallow your pride.

The last two men I dated were fit athletes. This actually has nothing to do with ED per se, except for the mindset of old athletes that refuse to believe thier bodies won't function like they used to - and trust me when I say this - that's not going to change. The subsection of men you chose to advertise to (fit older athletic types) are most likely to exhibit this denial of thier body changing or think "If it just gets enough excercise it'll start working again".

Yes, we're that dumb, but I think this should be part of you're bio on the other dating sites. If you need Viagra, take it - just lemme know you take it and we'll work the timing out.

For some men, Viagra does not work. In other instances, particularly the nervous, it may be that they are very anxious at the experience, which makes them go limp, which makes them more anxious, etc. I do accept that from a women's perspective, it's not ideal, though the guy probably isn't best pleased either.

It just takes more planning than it used to. It also means more time for foreplay while the drugs kick in. I've found that I can be much more imaginative in the 30-60 minutes it takes for the drug to kick in.

Luckily I don't have ED, but if I ever need the pills, why not?

I haven't had this problem but I'll keep my eyes open!!

Interesting

I don't like how this puts in onus on the male. Like everything else involved with sex and relationships it takes two to tango. For some, they don't always need the pills and can do it naturally. Sometimes everything works fine, and sometimes disaster strikes. While I'm not afraid to use ED treatments, it's not just about taking the medicine. Both people should respect each other. The word partner is used for a reason.

This is an interesting topic that, I must admit, I don't think I've ever seen any group of people honestly have before. The closest is with a good friend (neighbor, mid 50s) who told me he was diagnosed with low testosterone, and he described that after his shot of it (monthly, irrc), it was like someone hit a switch on his labido, he would have a ravenous night with the girl he was dating.

I've been fortunate thus far that I've not had an ED problem (more like the opposite really) and that in the 9 years that I was married, we never experienced any such issues.

I do hope that if such issues arise (pun intended) that I'm already in a relationship that is open and comfortable with such a problem that is just a natural part of aging.

Thank you for posting this.
My ex-husband had some ED issues that he refused to admit to or seek treatment for. Since then, I’ve dated men who openly discussed it early on, and others who refused to. In one spectacular case(which I posted about last year elsewhere), I couldn’t tell whether the man KNEW or was just delusional.
It’s better to have open discussion!
I’m 59 now; my body has certainly changed over the years, and I make allowances for it. I’m more than willing to do the same with my partners.

I think many men think that if they meet the right woman, things will change. This is reinforced by a whole bunch of psychobabble and idealism about sex being mental and emotional, and the physical is somehow secondary. Mind over matter, making love, all that. If youre their first try at "the right woman", you might also be their first wake up call.

i agree that it’s pretty rude of those guys to do that to you, and no one should do that. i’m not sure the low rates of treatment are reflective of anything though. it’s rude to not tell a partner before going to bed with them and make them feel inadequate, but there’s nothing wrong with not getting treatment if you’re just not interested in having sex or if your partner(s) know what to expect in the bedroom. the treatment statistics just aren’t very relevant; we’d really need numbers for how many men do this specific thing of taking someone to bed without telling them or taking a pill.

it’s sad that some men see it as a defeat or “unmanly” to take a pill, but we should be telling them that what they decide to do with their bodies is okay, as long as they’re up front with any sexual partners they may have.