We normally get together on Christmas Day, even though my family is agnostic/atheist, we like to use this time to reconnect and exchange gifts for the kids. My brother is now with someone new who doesn’t believe in family gatherings. I was just informed that they are coming Tuesday instead of Wednesday because they want to do their own thing on Wednesday. Fine, I won’t be there. I have to work and then go to a party. Thanks for changing the plans to suit your self absorbed desires.
Can you say pussy whipped?? My brother is such a freaking wimp he does everything she tells him to do. They can enjoy time with the parents, I have plans I am not willing to change. I’ll leave their gifts for them and carry on with my life.
What dysfunctional things happen with your holiday family gatherings?
just go and enjoy whoever shows up and keep your mouth shut for a day and be grateful for what you have if brother is happy be ok with that
I have other plans. That’s the point. He changed it last minute because that’s what he wants to do. I am not changing my plans for him. Plus, I’m in charge of the food for the party.
@helionoftroy id stick to my original plan changing should be mutual
One of my best Christmases was the one I spent alone. Friends couldn’t understand why I didn’t want to share the time with them. “You can’t be on your own at Christmas”
Yes I can! It’s my choice to.
Bless them, but it was great just to have a bit of peace!
Should be a day to do whatever ya want
I jiggle the keys in my pocket to remind myself I can leave.
oh man if you think someone changing dates is dysfunctional.... my family holiday gatherings would have you in tears or in a fetal position. Happy Holidays
Any you care to mention?
@helionoftroy Mostly just arguments between given fam members that sprawls out to criticisms against me or my sister or stress us both out we argue with each other. XD heh
@demifeministgal Why do you even go?
@Mitch07102 because if I don't they will throw a whiny bitchfest if I don't have a good reason for not coming and also, being alone on the holidays is more depressing for me.
I live alone so gifts do not enter the picture. Even my children know not to buy gifts for me. I tell them to buy for their children instead. Normally we have a holiday dinner at one of the daughter's homes. This year it appears that is not going to happen because of stupidity and one's work schedule. I might stay home alone OR maybe I could look for a homeless person less fortunate and try and surprise them by buying them dinner.
I live alone in a camper in Fort Lupton. Its temporary, Im here working and I have been here most of this year, I got to go home for a month in July then back to Colorado. I have a home on a farm in Kentucky. I went to family gatherings until about thirty years ago. Then it seemed to turn into a moral posting game. The other family members tried to out pray each other and chastize me because I had long hair, a beard and ride Harleys. They would ask me personal questions out loud then look around the room to check their appoval ratings.
My sister asked me how was my relationship with "Jesus" I told her I hadnt seen the motherfucker since Vietnam, that he was an MP and was riding in a jeep. I went through basic training with him. His name was Jesus Lagamasino and he was a Puerto Rican
That ended that conversation. The next loudly asked question was when are you going to find you a decent woman and settle down? I answered just as loudly back that "You can't have no fun with a decent woman" That ended that and was my last time at a holiday gathering. Maybe they had to find a replacement for the family heathen. I'll never know, and, I'll never care
I miss them. Although I don't believe in God, specially Christmas was a day where my closest family got together. In my place, on Christmas we would just enjoy, chat and have fun. My mother used always to cook mushrooms, which I absolutely love, with lots of pepper and lemon juice. My older brother, his wife at the time and my nephew would come along and they were JW at the time. Now, my older brother is in Brazil as well as my mother, my younger brother lives in London. We would very rarely discuss religion on those occasions. Sometimes after lunch I would go to a cafe that had pool tables and play all afternoon with my older brother. Sometimes drinking beer all afternoon as well. Was I very lucky with my family?
That sounds pretty functional to me. Everyone did their thing, no one got guilted into anything, no animals were harmed in the filming.
Remotely. My family lives in Australia, I live in the UK. It's a Skype call.
I have an athiest family as well, but we just get together on the holidays eat, exchange gifts and have fun. No real drama. I’m just lucky I suppose.
Having Christmas eve dinner with my ex and our daughter. We'll also open presents together in the morning. Christmas day with my girlfriend. Spend some time with my dad and stepmom on the family farm over the weekend.
The only dysfunction is the cat shitting on the floor. She's old but this is getting tedious.
Having a few days off work and eating nice food is good. Some years I spend a few hours at my brother’s, not the day as I get to drive and also don’t enjoy being around people, (especially my father), when they’ve have had more than a few pints.