I'm in the same boat. She thinks LGBTQ+ community is sick because they chose to be that way. I asked her when exactly we were presented with that option. She thinks they chose to be gay as a choice of free will. It's so frustrating.

I feel what you're going through but I think it ultimately helps us having someone so close with views in such opposition.

Not that I don't wish for days where my wife's views were less nutty. I can't take Bill Gates mark of the beast forced vaccination comments anymore and just have to walk away.

As long as she does not try to change you and is a good person that is all that is really important .I have been married to a believer for 36 years and we agree on everything including political views .Only a fanatical and closed minded atheists,agnostic,etc would find this a problem ,which is no different than a fanatical religious individual that will not except a nonbeliever.

My sympathies, and best wishes. Definitely draw the line, and be consistent in doing so.

Setting a better example is all anyone can do.

Consider expanding both her and your own perspective with psilocybin. Maybe you can meet in the middle...

The imagination is not real, the word imagination is a descriptor of a certain kind of thought, it is not real outside of that mind of the person having the thought. So gods are in no way real based on the relevance of the imagination.

As far as the rest, I simply hold "the religious" to the same standards I do everyone else. If someone publicly espouses hate or ignorance because of their "religious beliefs" or any other flawed source, I will call them out for it publicly. I see no reason to allow people's delusions to negative affect the lives of others unchallenged.

If she says there is a god, then she has to proved objective evidence that a god exist. You can lead a theist to reason, but you can't make him/her think.

It can be really hard to be married to a believer and the more extreme their beliefs, the harder it is. I'm now divorced. He made it very difficult because not only were our views monumentally different, only HIS views were the acceptable ones and if i didn't comply (which i didn't because i didn't believe in god to begin with not to mention some of his beliefs were really messed up) he would call me rebellious. In the end it was a way for him to feel superior over me and eventually I was done with it. We had almost nothing in common because everything was influenced by his beliefs.

He wasn't fully honestly about the extent of his beliefs when we dated. At the time he wasn't going to his church and he was desperate to find a wife. He was 35 when we met. I was 18. Lied about his age at first too. I found out later on. So many red flags I ignored I know. My home life was pretty crappy. It's been good to get out from under that and figure out my own values and do the things i want to do without constantly being told I'm being rebellious.

I know not everyone believer is like that though. There is a spectrum from where the belief is there but the person isn't fanatical about it to the hard core they will make sure everyone in their household goes along with that belief whether they like it or not. And it becomes a matter of what you can tolerate.

I guess I was lucky, when I left the LDS I feared it would end my marriage. However my wife loved me enough to ask why I felt I had to leave and when I told her she looked in to my reasons with an open mind and decided that I was justified, she followed me out of the church a couple of months later.
I think it came down to her loving me more than the church and so trusting me to have a good reason, she then took her own time to do some serious research and then decided I was right.
She was also wise enough to know it was a pointless exercise to try and bully someone in to pretending to believe something they don't.
Our relationship is all the better for religion being out of our lives and we are fast approaching our Pearl wedding anniversary.

My question is how is it possible to sustain an emotional bond with someone who's world view is in such opposition to your own? No disrespect intended - it would just be absolutely impossible for me to do.

You can't reason someone out of something that they weren't reasoned into.

My commiserations....that must be a very difficult situation.

There are 2 realities that we deal with in our lives, the first reality is the outerworld, that we experience through our 5 senses and then there is the reality that we deal with from within ourselves. It is that inner reality that you have to reach, and that takes time and work and patience.

I don't believe in any type of god, or gods; however, I don't care what a person believes as long as they are basically grounded in reality. One can believe in a generic creator god and still accept science, for instance.

It isn't completely unreasonable to believe that some sort of god is, or might be, responsible for creating the universe. It is unreasonable to think magically about this god, or the universe; and to think one can know what such a being "wants." Even the idea that such a being would "want" anything is a bit bizarre to me...which is why a creator god makes no sense to me. Unless creation is just a by-product of what it is rather than a conscious choice.

It is also unreasonable to say that one knows what this god wants and then try to force their beliefs onto others through some sort of coercion (either familial or via the government).

I have family members, including children, whom I don't think I will ever persuade; they are of the conservative Evangelical variety of Christian . My only hope is that they will at some point allow themselves to look outside of their religious box and fully explore the questions that I know they have.

We do not let people believevin gods. People are free to think and do what they please.

You either accept them, or you don't. No one needs your permission.

If I'm with anyone that feels they can tell me to "not say that" about anything it's over.
Even if I'm wrong for saying it.

In which case you may be a better practitioner of her religion than she is. I doubt her religion supports being unkind to anyone for any reason. “Judge not” etc.

It is very difficult sometimes, having a spouse or significant other as a believer. Difficult to have discussion because they can become irate. Unfortunately I don't have any tips or tricks that can help.

Was your wife religious when you got married or did she get converted later?

Believers do not think god can create someone who is gay. In fact, god did not create you because you had parents. Most of us did too, and that includes the gay person.

Good on you for drawing the line and standing up for your own morals. I think it’s not the power of imagination that drives then, more like the power of fear.

You have to draw some lines to remain comfortable in your own skin! If she can refrain from judgemental and/or racist remarks, fine. Unfortunately, my experience is many are drawn to religion because it "frees" them to Be judgemental & racist. Good luck!

She would have to want to leave on her own.
She most likely knows that her beliefs are nonsense.

"The true-believer syndrome merits study by science. What is it that compels a person, past all reason, to believe the unbelievable. How can an otherwise sane individual become so enamored of a fantasy, an imposture, that even after it's exposed in the bright light of day he still clings to it - indeed, clings to it all the harder? No amount of logic can shatter a faith consciously based on a lie." - M. Lamar Keene

There could be any number of reasons why people believe in fantasies. Find out what she is afraid of, or what she may be afraid of losing, then you may find a clue to help her.

Draw the line clearly.