I asked this question in the Ask Men Anything Group & received insipid answers. You being an expert in this arena perhaps you might address why men are so preoccupied with seed spreading. The gonads doing the thinking perhaps?

well i can tell u this first off

its biology

i don't know what insipid is

and ur gonads = balls? comment was something i knew youd say cuz u re indeed female but

since ur my only followers i would hug it out if u wanna k

Sorry

@rainmanjr Thank you. I've been done grieving for a few years now. The challenge is finding love again, which is the ultimate step in moving on. I saw and experienced some really bad stuff, as did she, in her last years. I want to get on with enjoying companionship and getting the opportunity to love again. Limited success so far, with only a six month relationship that ended with Covid. Ready to try again this summer with Match.

I would argue; not in the UK, but really am not that motivated to do the maths. A one bedroom flat is £700 in my area, whereas a 3 bedroom house is less than a thousand, for example. Our compulsory council tax is hefty, you get a 25% reduction if single, but in a shared home it’s still likely to be less.

@girlwithsmiles That sounds like encouraging people to have families.

@barjoe I’m not sure if it’s that thought out, they probably just charge what they can get away with. But share houses are pretty common, it’s quite a compromise though. It’s much easier being single in Aus. Plus in the UK it’s illegal to sublet if you’re a tenant. In Australia that’s not an issue, so easier to just have one person share, which is manageable. In the UK the landlords running share houses like all possible space utilised usually.

"Doing it" wrong??? Possibly but not necessarily. All relationships require compromise. They also require cooperation from each involved party. If a couple's wants and needs are too different to begin with, no amount of an individual "doing it right" will make up for the mismatch. The sacrifice will then be more substantial than the reward. I am enjoying my divorce tremendously.

Sure companionship is nice too, but not at the cost of heavy, lopsided compromise. If I happen to find the needle in the haystack who wants me, is appealing to me, and only needs modest compromise for both of us, then I'm game. But not having crossed paths with such a great match does not mean we're doing something "wrong." I'd much rather be alone than be pressured to change myself or deny my wants.
So I reject your blame game, respectfully.

relationships are tricky and come in many forms you don't have to live together to be in one and you don't have to pledge to be faithful
we all need some kind of interaction
personally I don't want all the bullshit that goes with a traditional relationship
I don't wanna cook or clean or do laundry for anyone but myself other than holidays and I don't want his opinion about how I spend my money or about my opinions or what makes him happy

@1BrentMichael I love being single. I admit it wasn't great during lock down but otherwise me, myself and I get along great. I do relationships wrong? Okay.

Bah, humbug

@EarnestEccentric I sm fun
use to climb the fence out back and walk over his bridge over a creek to visit one of mine
he did many nice things for us and I did a few for him lol alas he is gone and my fence climbing days are way over

@EarnestEccentric Oh PLEASE don't punish me with that!
I'd take an advisor position, though. Would have fun as an anti-KellyAnn! Lol

it is glorious.

I do.

@rainmanjr No dates, no contact with other people in any romantic capacity, at all, ever?

being totally single doesn't mean you don't wanna fuck you just don't wanna fuck one person and if you do you don't wanna all the time
it does not preclude dinners or dancing its about relationships of forever after

@whiskywoman This is why I made the distinction with a 'totally' modifier. Being single, especially during the pandemic, has meant for a lot of people the type of single I'm talking about. It's awful.

@JeffMurray there are ways we just have to be more careful

@whiskywoman There may be some lifestyles that haven't been interrupted in certain areas, but I'm talking about the ones that have.

@JeffMurray In my case the modifier fits. I am a rock is how I’ve come to feel🪨 People have done nothing but disappoint or abandon me so I no longer need them. Not saying everyone must be like me but nor should we have to put up with relationship exuberance and discrimination.

@rainmanjr The only thing I can see giving life any value is having someone to share the highs and lows with. If I had a crystal ball that let me know I'd never find someone I'd kill myself tomorrow.

@JeffMurray meet up at brunch, or karaoke, or a dance, If we ever get to do any of that stuff again, or take turns helping with the garden, or reinstalling a stairway, or whatever......

@AnneWimsey I don't think I understand. I don't have anyone to do any of that stuff with...

@EarnestEccentric I don't think that would in any way be a substitute. Porn or prostitutes would only serve to exacerbate loneliness (I assume) as you would have the knowledge that you have to pay someone to be with you and you'd know they don't want to be there. I don't need that in my life.

@JeffMurray Porn is good but I don't do prostitutes. My hand is fine and free.

@rainmanjr Your hand can't keep you company on a trip to Jamaica. I mean, it'll be there, but it's probably not much of a conversationalist.

@EarnestEccentric Yeah, I don't think you're getting my point...

@JeffMurray describing the type of relationship i would treasure! Maybe an overnight included now & then