Hell show up first and then we can see if we piss each other off.

Great question. Wish I knew. Is it to do with rejection maybe?

I think to some extent we want so much to be liked yet are scared of thinking they found the "one", and being wrong.

I've had luck reaching out to meet people online. I don't buy into "finding the one," but making friends, forming relationships, and finding love are definitely worth the risk of rejection to me.

Because I know damn well that I will disappoint the person who has the guts to initiate any contact with me.
If you think this is a thinly veiled attempt at reverse psychology, then bully for you. 100000 internet points.

Because nobody wants to get hurt.

I'm all about it. I find the men don't really want to meet.

The PROBLEM with dating ................ going on a date is like going to a job interview. Only thing is that you are uncertain if you want the job, don't even know if you would like the job, are not sure you are ready to retrain for a new job and really the only thing you really want are the benefits the job has to offer.

Continuing with the analogy above, the big hurtle of the job interview process (dating) is trying to get a positive reaction from the HR department to get the interview.

IKR? Back when I was dating, my attitude was like "Hey, I think you're cool; wanna go out?" And if that went well, next up was "Wanna smash?". And always in the back of my mind was "This probably isn't going to work out--who cares either way? You're not gonna find the right one right away; gotta try on a few that don't fit, first. No big deal."

That was back when I was significantly more naive and didn't fully realize the effect I was having on men--nor how most people are about "taking chances", or how to behave when you discover a bad fit. Now that I have a wider window on such things, I wouldn't bother. I can't take the drama.

TL;DR: Brilliant theory; crap practice.

Under doing leaves overthinking as the remaining option. People have mentioned the distance factor. It is tough to arrange a quick meeting over a long distance. That requires planning. Planning is work. Work is unpopular.

I met someone recently who I'm getting to know, and it's essential that I stop overthinking as neither of us have any idea where it's going right now and I don't want to assume anything or jump the gun. It's actually helping me to just enjoy the journey and the relationship that's developing. Hard to grasp that I can't control this. This isn't easy for me because my M.O. is to overthink everything! Especially when my fears creep in. Been a huge learning curve for me.

I would like that very much, if only we were closer. Have a nice day !!

That's what I do when I see someone nearby within reason.

It's SCARY! ☺

Life is full of adventures. One must love themselves if they are to ever find someone to love. As for "the one", I'm hoping for more than one "the one".

Because dating sites are terrifying. So why am I doing this? Friends encouraged me to try Match and Zoosk. I saw this posted on FB. My 60+ year old BFF found her awesome boyfriend on Match. I found both of them horrible. Hoping this will be better.

Side effect of modern life.

I don't worry about that at all. Never have. Just enjoy the beauty that life has to offer. Once its done, it's for good and you will cease to exist eventually, so just enjoy the pleasure of what every human being has to offer; they too have a story to tell.

I just pay someone else to go for me on the first one. I take the reins on the second. Seems to work fine ... every other date. ?

100% truth. In this day in age dating is like a job interview

For me personally it's because I'm a bit of a twat

I don’t over think it.