The idea that we can change other people according to a plan, is behind much, if not most, human misery. People do change, and sometimes change themselves, all the time, but people and life are complex, sometimes compliant and sometimes resistant, and it is impossible to know all the other pressures they may be under, so that it is almost impossible therefore to predict the directions in which they will change.

Even trained therapists in the mental health and personal wellbeing industries, find changing a persons attitudes in a predictable way, both challenging and difficult. Even though they are dealing usually with willing subjects. The attitude therefore in which many, especially the immature, enter marriage, of for example, such as. "I will get him/her to loose that addiction she/he has to those horrible friends." Is doomed to fail, especially as it is most likely to be an attitude of the simpleminded and immature, and they are the least equipped to succeed anyway.

Well I like to hope that we can all help each change for the better or at least try, since it's the right thing to do. But there does come a time when we try as we might to help someone, but they simply can't change. So, in that respect the sign is funny, for sure.

The message is a good one for those of us who were stuck in a toxic relationship and couldn't find a way out until too many years have passed in hope.

The same advice is good for men as well.

This is wrong. I changed myself in a few ways and can think of two people l know l helped change in some major ways, for the good.

I think that our perceptions of the world change as we get older and there usually follows a change in our actions and reactions. Some people give more allowance to the passage of time rather than jumping to quick conclusions about situations where there is little known information much less facts. As for changing others I think that we may lead the way by example. Why focus on changing others when we have enough to work to do on ourselves.

Well I changed myself after 30. I don't use my left hook as much as my right upper cut anymore.