We are a community filled with people of varrying ideas and viewpoints. This means that frequently someone will say something which you do not like or do not agree with. If this bothers you, then you are more than welcome to move on.

I haven't been that unlucky so far - been here awhile enjoying the buzz -

A fluctuating group of random people expressing views with little or a lot of intent.
It ain't no echo chamber for sure, but it's all in what you're after.

The quality of this site depends on what you want and how you use it.

I keep hearing of all these problems but have not personally experienced it. Perhaps I don't tend to visit the site areas racism and sexism is occuring, and I do have some tolerance for sexist kidding. It also probably helps being college educated with two parents that were as well. In the three or so months I've been here I have had two or three unpleasant/snarky replies, but they remained fairly civil, and there was nothing overt I could detect to indicate they were racially motivated. Aside from those, I have found everyone to be respectful, mostly positive, and very accepting.

@MagRat I think it's good that you brought this up. I was born either at the very tail end of the baby Boomers or the beginning of the baby Buster's. I'm a white guy in my early 50s and have no doubt that white privilege plays a part in my life. I attempt to be very conscious of that, when interacting with others. I have a lot of friends spanning across a lot of ages, genders, colors, religions, etc. One thing I've learned is that if you are looking for a certain behavior in a crowd of people you will find it. Easily. Sometimes it's really there, yet other times I may have imagined it into my reality. Both good behaviors and those we may disdain. I feel like it is very important to not let what I think I know get in the way of what I could be learning. if someone is being disrespectful or abusive please hit the report and block button in a second. However i recognize that if I keep building walls and protections around my point of view, I can sit comfortably inside of my couch cushion fort. At times, I can stand out in the storm, not all the time, but enough see what's falling, which way the wind is blowing, how much the clouds are covering the Sun and so on. You can't get that from the news. You can't get that from the people that are like-minded around you. this is of course only my opinion. peace.

I've seen a few people complaining about these kinds of behaviors on here lately and either I'm not paying attention or not that sensitive. I've seen some, but not enough that I would consider leaving. I feel like comparing this to Facebook is like comparing a rose garden with a sewer. People seem to be for the most part pretty awesome on here.

I’ve been on this site a few months now, not long, though. I like this site, but you are always going to be faced with some form of people you don’t agree with.

Certain groups, like "Memes R Us" is about pushing boundaries, so if you have a thin skin, you may wish to stay away. Other than there, I don't see this. Now, I have a thick skin, & don't trigger easily, so that may be the difference, but there are many categories & groups where anything like that is very unlikely to appear!

Only been here six weeks or so but I felt exactly the same way you do when I got here. I would add there's a lot of misogyny here which I didn't expect and don't appreciate. You just need to find some good pals and follow them (star their profile.) Good people know other good people, and pretty soon you have a worldwide tribe, and that is very cool. The bullies and mental cases are always the loudest and most obnoxious, but there are wonderful people on here who make me smile and I am very glad I stuck around long enough to find them. Once I blocked the obvious assholes I found a lot of cool compassionate people. Use that block button liberally and don't regret it. Once they are gone, you'll see us, waving "Hi, Unbeliever!"

I have not seen a lot of this and I've been here since the beginning. Perhaps it is the groups you are in or your outlook?

If people are rude - you report them.

And frankly I find this site very refreshing over the other sites I belong to.
But it's the people I've surrounded myself with here that make all the difference.

I think the problem is expecting people to be different from what they really are because they have something in common with you. I've noticed a lot of atheists, Skeptics and freethinkers seem to not be as smart as I expected them to be. Some people just let you down. I think we have high expectations of everyone on this site and when we do that we are bound to be let down. Every Village has a village idiot. LOL

I take offence that you refer to yourself as "a girl" at 42 years of age but take offence at an elderly man that refers to women as "female".
I find "What's in it for me?" is an indication of how boomer parents have raised a generation X rife with hubris.
As if a life is unique to some when life itself is suffering according to the Buddhists.
But I do not expect you to "understand half of what I said."
Perhaps if you leave this site it will be better.
You are free to do that.
Not much dating going on here.

Older whites are on the run right now. The world is turning on them (rightfully so in many cases). They are looking for a place where they can be 'themselves'. Confronting them tends to drive them off. A few are waking up but most are just horrible humans that must be moved.

I haven't been here long, so I don't have much of a linear perspective. Some of the content I like, some of it I don't, but I suspect I'd leave and never come back if I was limited in terms of an age group or cultural group. I'm a Baby Boomer who has spent her life around young people so my attitudes are atypical of my demographic group. I have been a proponent of social justice issues since I started in the '60's. I think we have a lot to learn from each other if we keep our minds open and our discourse civil.

I think this site, like many others, goes through phases of being absolutely great and, well, not as much - it was fantastic when I joined, then it kind of tailed off a bit, then it got better again. Right now, I'd say we're in a trough; but hang around and hopefully we'll be in a peak again soon. I always enjoy your posts and comments (which is why I followed you!), so I hope you'll stick with us and be part of the solution.

I've seen some of what you're talking about, but I wouldn't say a lot. I'd be interested in knowing what you find offensive; a representative sampling.

I haven't been on here a ton but I haven't been seeing that hardly at all. Where are you continuing to find this stuff?

I haven't encountered this problem. Hiding from inappropriate content is naive. Requesting a segregated age group is restrictive & will not aid in the advancement of tolerance. Want to avoid these miscreants? Report,flag,block, form a restrictive group, or respond with cogent arguments. Where are these people getting such posts? I do not see them but if I did I would counter them. I do not believe in ignoring evil. Good people must step up, not segregate themselves. #overly sensitive & young

This place/site is better only because the visitors/members are more likely to not have religious shit distorting the functioning of their frontal lobes. Otherwise it is just like real life.