It took me a long time to reach that conclusion too! I can do bad all on my own, don't need a partner in that. If you don't bring in positivity to my life. Bye!

Type A is more of an aggressive type person, I think. As others have said these are just generalizations. But some male attorneys I have worked with yell, pound their fists, turn red as I sit there and wonder if they will have a stroke. They call themselves type A and are very proud of it.

@goldrose I think of Type A's as more super focused, driven and pretty much goal obsessed. That can be someone who is aggressive like your examples of those guys but I would say they're just being bullies/spoiled children who are throwing an adult version of a fit until they get what they want. I would go even farther and say there's a decent amount of toxic masculinity involved. I guess this is just my long-winded way of saying you can be Type A without also being aggressive.

@goldrose I could certainly be mistaken but iirc there are "grades" of A, etc. You might work with uber EXTRA A, or something. A million years ago (seemingly) I was
graded" A2 (?

Good point! If you aren't a doormat you're a type A woman! rolls eyes

@sarahjustme. Yea..thats what worries me.

I’ve noticed men want to be needed and a center of a woman’s life. My independence is a huge problem. I had to force myself to ask the last guy I dated to help me with things so he could feel needed.

@goldrose Nothing wrong with being a strong woman but it would be great to be the centre of each other's life ..well aspirationally anyway.

I disagree. Sometimes I wish I could be like my friends. They have no problem kissing ass and letting the guys spoil them. I have too much pride and guys feel they have nothing to offer.

my first wife (kids birth-giver) left and came back 14 times in six and a half years; each time I took her back based off the erroneous belief that I had to sacrifice anything to hold my family together, for the sake of my kids. The last time she left, she tried to come back once more, after being gone three years at that point. And by then, I could see how much better my kids were doing without her there to neglect them. With that under my belt, I told her flat-out 'no'.

Men and women both go through this, for a variety of reasons. And I'll still give a second chance - but you can damn sure bet I'll not give a third. Not anymore.

@DerekD Not everyone is meant to be a parent, or a partner.

@DerekD wow, that's tough. I am glad you are there for your children.

@goldrose Maybe they feel they have nothing to offer, because they don't.
No man is worth "dumbing down" for, or kissing his ass. Spoil yourself.

@KKGator yup, totally agree..

Independent woman that does not depend on anyone for anything. She is successful at whatever she does and takes care of her loved ones. Loyal, loving but does not put up with anything or anyone that causes her trouble or grief. I run a successful law firm and raised two children by myself with no help. I would like to give up my alpha status and start depending on others but have been let down too many times.

@goldrose why would you like to give up alpha status? It sounds awesome! After reading this article, I was not sure why anyone would want to be not alpha (beta?). If one is actively pursuing love, doesn't it imply that he or she believes that life will be better when he or she finds it? If that is the case, does it not imply an alpha would not pursue love as there is no need for it? If somehow love happens, great! If not, life is going great anyway!

@srikanth sometimes I get tired of making all the decisions and would like some emotional support.

@goldrose How would you define a non Alpha woman?

@KenG I would consider a non-alpha woman someone who doesn't want to have control of her life or make many decisions. Your traditional 50's housewife, for example. Let him make the and all the bills. She'd rather stay home and have babies and assume he's never going to divorce her for a younger model because someone told her men prefer traditional women.

Thank you