Not so long ago I met a group of people at a gathering. At some point a woman said to me, "tell me about your children?" I responded, "this will be quick, I have no kids." Her response to me really was unreal. "How could anyone consider their life worthy without having children. The thought of not having children would depress me and make life feel worthless." I didn't know this lady, and immediately I knew I had no desire to know her. The most incredible statement ever spoken too me.
My response to comments like this is usually something along the lines of, "Well, I find value in who I am as a person has nothing to do with whether I have children or not, or whether I'm partnered or not. I'm quite happy with who I am and how my life is going without children (and/or without a partner, in case the person has chosen to comment on how horrible it is that I'm single). I enjoy my time to myself and can do so many other things with my life that don't require children." That usually shuts them up, or at least gives them a second's pause. Sometimes they come back with more blather, "you're being selfish" or other b.s. I usually take that as a sign that this is a person who isn't completely happy with his or her choices in life and sometimes has regrets about having children. I leave them to stew with their own thoughts on those issues, usually with a parting comment along the lines of, "Well, I'm sorry you feel that way, but I'm quite happy with my life. Enjoy your children," and then make a swift exit.
I just watched a movie where the lead character told her boyfriend that wanting to reproduce was a sign of narcissism. Loved that line.
just be thankful she didn't get to the sky daddy shit
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