I have had several friends with benefits. Most start as friends first. The important thing is to be honest and upfront. I had lady I was friends with for over a year. I never tried anything sexually because I did not think see would be a FWB type and I did not want to mislead her. We went to a college football together one night and see drove. We got back to my house; I went to the bathroom and came out she was standing in the hallway wearing wearing just her bra and underwear. We went into may bedroom and had sex. The next morning I asked her what changed her mind. She said her oldest daughter talked her into it.

My Definition of FWB

What is Required?

1. Friendship
2. Trust
3. Physical intimacy (as defined)
4. Financial help - travel, restaurants, entertainment, memberships, subscriptions or as defined but to legitimate causes
5. Exclusivity if negotiated and agreed upon

What is Not Required?

1. Emotional intimacy
2. Strings attached of any kind

Who wants to Talk? Men Need Not Apply... Lol

If we define FWB as strictly sexual, without a established relationship outside of sex dating, several times. IMO, the greater the passion the more likely feelings towards the person will increase. Conversely, if the sex is blah, then the plateau is pretty low for the relationship. Now, I have observed that there are some married women who set up a purely sexual relationship for various reasons (see Ashley Madison).

That is the definition of FWB since there is no future in those relationships, typically ( does not make any easier for those involved). A friend of mine was told by a divorced female friend in retrospect she should have simply opted for an affair. As far as falling in love, well IMO you can totally have a case of "right person, wrong time".

We were friends. We had a sexual attraction to each other. No discussion happened until benefits were found to be mutually beneficial. Neither of us was looking for a relationship. Things were great for awhile. One of us developed feelings that the other was not prepared to reciprocate. Platonic (opposite sex) friendships are possible when both people are on the same page about remaining friends and not becoming lovers.

Sorry I have blocked most of the sexist boys here wanting FWB.....OUR nurturing species and our Feminist Atheist birthrights just don't seem to fit FWB girls&boys.....recreational sex sounds like the NFL with condoms and cheerleaders to me...your questions seem rhetorical towards illiterate boys only counting inches and notches on their woodies....what ever happened to courtship and marriage growing trust and families together? Are weddings just another cast off church tradition for Atheists wanting FWB ?

Right after breaking up with my 2nd partner a woman expressed in interest in dating. We were in a group together and did lots of events and finally got together. I liked her a lot and she I. She lived and worked in another town about an hour away so we often got together on weekends. She wanted a commitment but I was not ready (I did say as long as we were together she would be the only one but she wanted more). She was stable (finally), intelligent and physically pleasing but I was not ready. We agreed if one of us found another we would tell the other and we would back off and she did find what she was looking for (until she caught him in bed with her sister). We stayed friends and occasionally I hear from her. I am certain if we had stayed together we would still be together but my life would be completely different.

I have not had that type of relationship so the responses are interesting.

I never had a FWB but I am open and would love to learn more. I am assuming FWB does not mean just platonic.

I have lots of platonic, close friendships with men, some of whom are married. We do not hang out without their wives or partners present, even though there isn’t mutual attraction. I’ve experienced a wonderful FWB relationship but it requires being on the same page in terms of the no-strings part. Our agreement was that if someone with dating potential showed up, the FWB part would convert immediately to an occasional check-in text.

Lot of questions...have had two FWB's, one was a long time friend before we started to play together. No more. She returned to Europe...other one, we found each other on the good old CL...was supposed to be strictly physical, but something developed with her and I had to step away.
When we were at our best, was a very happy relationship for both of us.

The whole fwb is confusing from the get go..
You can't even find a good definition of what it actual constitutes..
My opinion.
Either your in a non monogamous relationship, or your in a committed relationship, or its a one night stand .

There have been a couple, one I met on a site OKC, many shared interests and it developed quickly. when I began to get invested as in a relation ship she ended it quickly and wanted no more contact.
The other main fwb relationship that lasted for any length of time was a friend we just kept getting closer. It ended due to some Poly metamour issues that didn’t really effect our friendship that much.

Ask a swinger!

Not had an FWB.

Never fallen in love with a FWBs, though I cannot speak for them. There is an understanding when either one of us becomes exclusive, the FWBS has to end and we can be platonic friends or acquaintance or whatever. I have had purely platonic friends in the past and my best friend currently is a straight guy. IT definitely helps if there is no attraction from one or both parties. Or, if there is attraction on 1 end, he or she has to be okay with the fact that you two will NEVER date or be intimate no matter what. I have strict boundaries in place with male friends, not because I think things are destined to happen, but to not confuse or lead them on. When I decide to be someone's friend, that is it. No dating. But guys can be damn finnicky... you tell em it is not serious or they are a rebound or be very explicit and they still think they can sway you or make you fall for them... meh

I realized early on I am not a FWB type of person. I have found that it doesn't usually mean friends, it means convinience, and usually his. I decided I am an all or nothing person. I may be alone but I don't feel short changed.