Sometimes I feel weird.
I just recently discovered I was truly Bi. I've been coming out to a fair number of friends, but I certainly have not made it public on forums like Facebook.
The other night, I told a married couple who are friends. I made sure to tell them when their adult son was out of the room. I sensed he might be bothered by the news. The husband took it in stride. The wife took it okay, but not quite as well.
It makes me feel weird, though. I enjoy telling most people and feel good about myself. But I am still afraid of some reactions.
Has anyone here gone though sometime similar? Are there still some people you'd never come out to?
I came out in two separate ways, many years apart. I first came out as bi in grad school, as I was marrying my wife. She accepted it in theory, ...just so long as I was monogamous. I joined the campus gay et al alliance, even became group treasurer for two years. Went to the '93 March on Washington (it was AWESOME!), made great "family" friends. But soon enough I settled into an utterly hetero lifestyle for years and years. Turned to gay porn as a rather limited outlet. I came out all over again as gay in 2014. Amicable split from wife. She and my son are both progressive and cool with it. I guess I am what you could call a 70/30 gay.
Labels are often inadequate to describe us. I think that adds to our fear of coming out. To tell people "I am this or that" seems to risk misunderstanding them jumping to erroneous conclusions, and judgment. For all those years after I came out as bi, which technically is what my orientation is, I told very few people. I had labeled myself as bi, was living a hetero life, and increasingly simply felt gay. What a mess. Now I am a gay guy who could imagine being seduced by a woman under the right circumstances. lol
BTW, I am generally out, now, to anyone who cares to ask, plus many who haven't asked, some co-workers, a few clients, even, and casual friends I have made in social clubs. But I don't wear a button to announce it to the world, or anything. Some situations just are not appropriate for bringing it up without a direct provocation.
I applaud you for your braveness in telling your friends. I'm out to my friends, but I don't think I will ever tell my two bosses. And that's okay -- to keep it private in certain circumstances. Do what makes you feel comfortable. And your feeling weird -- well, it's still a tough topic sometimes to broach.
I think you should fully come out and live your life freely without worrying if they will find out themselves unless you don't want to take the chance of losing their friendship, up to you.
I more or less grew up bi...or pan...if someone appealed to me and was willing, game was on....had a long talk before marriage with my fiance..Explained that I would continue to have safe sex, with one man, not wild party stuff and if she would not handle it, we would not marry...but she would have the freedom to have a boyfriend or boyfriends, depending on her needs, since we both were VERY sexually active before marriage, long story short, we married, we had friends, we had sex, the best part was WE NEVER HAD TO LIE...
Most of my friends don't know I'm bi. I live in a very conservative area... and it hasn't really come up either. I will make comments like, she's hot..but that's it.
Oh, a lot don't even know I'm atheist.
Posted by snytiger6Hundreds of love letters between two gay men during WWII ...
Posted by snytiger6All for love and ...
Posted by snytiger6Being gay is not a sin ...
Posted by snytiger6Bigot Bird ...
Posted by snytiger6Pride is important ...
Posted by snytiger6Coming out ...
Posted by snytiger6Larissa awakens Christmas morning to find ...
Posted by CliffordCook([iowafaithleadercoalition.
Posted by snytiger6Victoria's Secret model, huh ...
Posted by snytiger6I come in peace ...
Posted by snytiger6You need to find peace with your uniqueness...
Posted by snytiger6The only choice made was to be myself...
Posted by snytiger6The day you graduate from...
Posted by snytiger6Trust me. There is no other man...
Posted by snytiger6The bible belt...
Posted by snytiger6Condiment come out...