I got deadnamed last in public. I was at an event when a minister I know sidled up to me and chortled, "I know your real name!" And he gave my deadname. I told him flatly that was my deadname, to refrain from using it, and that my real name was the name that folks used. He insisted that my legal name was beautiful, why didn't I use I use it? B/c This guy is a friend, I'm making a appt for coffee to explain to him why he should never do this to folx. Sigh
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.The things I learn here are amazing....thank you for the edumakashun, kinda calls out those that would insist on not accepting...
HankSherman
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Aug 14, 2019
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I respect you for being polite to him despite the circumstances.
thegabster
Level 5
Aug 13, 2019
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Figures he'd be a minister.
The private meeting seems in order, though he might be one of those who flatly refuses to allow himself to be educated on the subject. If he makes it clear that is indeed the case, I suppose you could point out that he is either ignorant or flat out rude, and of the two choices, ignorant is at least fixable. Intentionally rude is an asshole worthy of being blocked from your life. Good luck!
MikeInBatonRouge
Level 8
Aug 13, 2019
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Wow!
Dude isn't very up on the times is he?
And really I've know folks who legally changed their names or adopted a new name my entire life and it's just kind to use someone's preference.
For instance your friend is obviously a Dick - but if he prefers Richard that's what you call him! 
RavenCT
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Aug 13, 2019
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???
bobwjr
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Aug 13, 2019
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