I had been talking to a guy for a month. Tried to meet up several times but he either had something come up or got sick. I was definitely getting the "not interested" vibe. But when I asked him he was always so like " no I am interested..lets just take it slow" So I point blank asked him if he wanted me or not. He gets all defensive and says for me to stop acting like we were dating!! Wtf?? I don't have time for games and I am too old for that shit anyway. Why can't men just be open and honest about their intentions??
I have a tendancy to talk to more women than men, it has always been this way. I can only think of about 10 reasons why. All of them having to do with my childhood. I am married to the love of my life, but I do not get out much, except for medical appointments and work, which I still do as I love what I do. Kate has a disease probably no more than 200 people on the planet have, this along with the hip problems, the knees that don't allow her to get around. Any way I try my best to say that I am not looking for a relationship. I have tried to help several people with what I know and have had some misunderstandings. Women think I am being forward, which if I were looking for a relationship I would probably be. But since I am not I just offer help. I want every one to be happy and get along. Life is hard enough and people do not need others playing games with them. This I will not do and if anyone thinks I am then they have to tell me.
I really think they should have a "just flirting" category.
@Carin I am not flirting here. I do not cheat, will not cheat. It is not fair to me, have more responsibilities than I wish, but I can handle them, it is not fair to my wife, I cannot lie to her, why would I want to, then I have to start remembering what I say and when, too much work and I am not smart enough to really pull it off, and for sure not honest or fair to any woman I would flirt with, there is no chance for a relationship, not while things are as they are. Perhaps not after that I cannot imagine nor would I want to speculate.
He actually weighs 400 lbs, is unemployed, and lives in his mum’s basement. The photos he posted are his brother-in-law, Pete. You dodged a bullet.
LOL!
Some are, you found the wrong guy. Cut your losses, forget him and move on. Don't make a priority someone who makes you optional.
He's either playing games to boost his ego or afraid of involvement. Move on quickly!
To be honest, This guy seems liking like he's hiding something. To me I would drop him like a hot potato. there are manother fish in the sea. believe me, he's not worth the hastle.
I know. Been there. I don't like games either. Mine didn't have the balls to break up in person, no call, no text. Screw that noise. They keep telling me there are good ones out there. We'll find 'em. 'Til then, let's go have a beer. First round's on me!
Sounds good lol. I’m in the same boat as you. I’m wondering where the good women are hiding. I’m up for a nice quiet bar lol
Not all guys are like that. I for one am not. When I have a lady in my life nobody will be able to get me to cheat. I call everyday when I’m unable to go visit. I tag her in romantic memes on Facebook and such. I do my best to let her know she’s always in my thoughts
Yeah, this guy was lying to someone for sure. That's how people act when they are potentially cheating.
Watch our for the warning signs. Being a poly guy, we get it a lot with women pulling the same exact thing. If someone isn't wide open with you about their life or things within it by about a week or two, then they are being dishonest somewhere along the line. Just level and tell them this is how it looks and, often, they will come right out and admit it.
You're 100% right - don't waste time on those guys. Move on.
All the best to you!
He probably has feelings of inadequacy and is intimidated by your superior sexual prowess.
Or he's just a dumb jerk.
Maybe both.
Prolly both.
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I am a firm believer in believing what people do over what they say. Words are easy.
From your description he is acting uninterested, I would assume no matter what he said he is uninterested or like couple of guys I shooed way wants you to be there when he has nothing else going on.
You are definitely worth more than either scenario.
Many people (men and women) are bad at expressing their thoughts or opinions clearly and honestly. Also, many people tend to have things they want to hide. My only advice is just remember you can't change people. At the first sign they are not being upfront and honest then move on and move on quickly. Also, trust your gut instinct on these matters. That is your subconscious mind contradicting your conscious mind trying to rationalize the other person's behavior.
They say to trust your gut, first impressions,if something seems "Off" run away.....