What are the best arguments you have in favor of marriage?
The right to make legal and medical decisions regarding one's S/O when said S/O cannot.
Very true! It's one of the most important reasons for gay marriage.
This.... Is huge. Yes.
As somebody who lost 100% power in my fiance's life when he was hospitalized and then died, I agree, this is HUGE. I was "welcomed" at some doctor conversations and others were deemed "just family." His rotten ex (mother of his minor children) and horrid estranged sister were absolutely horrible to me and did everything he didn't want as it related to his service (had it at a Catholic church and he despised the Catholic church; buried him when he wanted to be cremated; and place old pictures of them together -- and they'd been divorced for three years), his belongings (including a classic car he would have wanted his best friend to have, but that didn't happen; and including demanding our joint belongings from OUR home), etc. It was all maddening, heartbreaking and disgusting; and I hope to never go through that again.
..... wait, I’m thinking???? It’s not sex because that’s been better single...Not to raise kids because we are doing that divorced anyway? you better just tell me cause I’m not gonna get it. Was this a trick question?
I use this as an arguement for everything...
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In the butthole!
Tax breaks, also when you have kids and get divorced it is supervised by the state for the kids benefits, mostly. Otherwise, Buncha BS
Ummmmmm, gimme a while and maybe I can come up with something.
Best way by far to bring up kids is with both parents together, marriage strengthens a couple, or should. But few take the vow seriously. I you don't get on, don't have kids, once you do have kids you owe it to them for you both to get on.
Its....um....welll.....oh there's.... yeah, I got nothing.
My only reason to marry would be if you plan to have children.
@Donotbelieve Weak perhaps but it is MY reason. I am NOT judging you in any way. You do you, I do me and let's strive to do or cause no harm.
@Donotbelieve My dear friend, I took no issue at all from your comment. I too am completely against marriage, but only for me and others like me and yourself. We are on the same page here I would think.
If I were being highly pragmatic, asset protection. Marriage provides a legal safeguard for a personal you share your life and home with. If for some reason you pass away, you know they have security.
Personally, as a product of Western cultural attitudes, I think marriage holds value as a statement about one’s intentions and responsibilities. Marriage is a promise to trust another more than you can trust yourself.
You can will your assets to anyone you like, married or not.....
@AnneWimsey Good point. I was thinking in debates surrounding gay marriage for example as well, just as a means of minimising fuss. But fair enough.
It's not like couples can take each other to court for child support should it be required, nope. I have to add on another coconut layer of bureaucratic nightmare to hold my partner hostage in case they get any wild ideas that don't include dragging me along with them.
Power of Attorneys are great and all, but I'd rather spend what is basically the cost of four, week long, badass, honeymoons. Just so we can show off to family members we haven't seen in decades how snazzy I look in my rented tux, and how beautiful she looks in a dress that's two car payments in value that gets worn once. Also all this money is basically for one day! Let's not get my friend who's done photography for years, Nah! Let's hire the one the wedding planner suggests that costs basically a 150% markup, but hey! open bar! woo! that...we...paid...for.....crap... Oh I almost forgot!
Lets not forget the artificially inflated, but otherwise value-less, compressed, shiny, glittery, clear, rock thing held in place on top of gold shaped rings we get to trade off as we both silently weep at the complete financial loss they are.
fyi- Satire, obviously.
You are wildly optimistic about the price of a wedding dress, friend..."2 car payments" if the car is a Lamborghini, maybe....or a Rolls? Naw, 4-5 payments, minimum.
Sounds pretty spot on to me. ?
I used to think it indicated a stronger sense of commitment to each other. Living together you can choose whether to work hard at resolving problems, otherwise it's a lot easier to leave than a marriage is. Now I'm not so sure. Being old fashioned though, I do think it's better if you have kids.
For some people it's a commitment that allows them to trust their partner more as they've both at least claimed that they will stand by each other through thick and thin. For others I know they think it's outdated and obsolete and a horrible institution and IMO, most of those folks can trace back to a negative event or person that caused them to hold their current view.